I’d like to first say this is my first time posting here, so if I post or do anything wrong, i apologize for the confusion as I am new.
Some background to my issue and story. I’m 17 and graduating in June. I come from a very “old fashioned” family. My father has a GED (dropped out of high school) and works for New York State DOT, so he does blue collar work and stuff like that. My mother is a nurses assistant, she works part time, she has a high school diploma. My older brother is 20 and currently in the Marines, has his GED (dropped out in 12th grade). My parents have often said they don’t believe in a college education and that it’s just a “glorified high school diploma”.
I have a couple of months until I graduate and would really like to go to college. I’ve worked jobs like construction and worked on a farm as a farmhand, mostly to pay my bills (my parents don’t pay for any of my bills other then like medical stuff I guess, I pay for my phone, my clothes, my car insurance, so i don’t have a lot saved up). the truth is that I hate those jobs and don’t want my future to be spent doing that kind of work for the rest of my life. I understand you aren’t supposed to “love” your job, but I just don’t want to be crippled and beat up like my dad when I’m 50 years old.
This is where the problems begin to arise.
My parents sat me down back in January, and asked me what my plans are after for graduation, like they did with my brother. I informed them that I applied to both SUNY Albany and SUNY Potsdam. I would like to study Computer Science and pursue a career as a software engineer, as the pay seems really good and it seems like a great field to get into. I was optimistic about my chances of getting in, I have 3.6 GPA and scored 1330 on the SAT, plus my work experience and being in honors society and playing varsity football and running track. (I eventually got into both schools!! I’m going to attend SUNY Albany hopefully).
Well my father was having absolutely none of that. “Where are you gonna get money to pay for school?” I explained that if I filled out FAFSA with his help, I could maybe qualify for loans or something. My father then told me that he would not sign anything or give any of his information to me to help fill out the form. He told me that college was useless and that he doesn’t even have a high school diploma and he still has a good job, so a college degree is not something I should be considering. He then gave me two options.
He said I could either find a job, and start paying rent after graduation on top of my bills I’m paying already, or he’d gladly take me to a recruiter and I could join the military like my brother. Neither of those are something I want to do, and I want to go to college so bad and further my education. I can’t fill out anything financially, like the FAFSA, because I need my parents tax information and they will not give it to me. I do know I won’t be eligible for Excelsior because my parents make over the limit (125k and under).
I have no clue what to do, as it stands I have little to nothing saved up, as the money I make goes towards all of my bills. Does anyone have any tips on how I should go about this? I don’t know how loans or stuff like that works at all. I also looked into local 2 year SUNY schools/ community colleges as a backup in case I can’t attend either 4 year college. I’m hoping to meet with my guidance counselor via zoom or something to get advice, but I figured I would check here as well.