<p>So I just read a thread and some of the commentators were talking about how their parents are selling their stuff and making their rooms into the game room. Etc and etc.</p>
<p>Ready?! ...Discuss!</p>
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<p>My mom and her boyfriend just bought a new house out in the country. It's a four room house and she gave me the huge bedroom, even though I was going off to college. (My little brother got the small room.) She gave me her old queen set and her old giant flat screen TV. I was all surprised and shocked because I'm about to go to college and only come home for weekends and breaks.</p>
<p>Then, while I was at work, she starts putting decor that looks like it came from a retirement home. I started questioning what she was doing and she said that my bedroom was going to be my mom's boyfriend's mother's room when I move out. (She's elderly and they don't want to put her in a nursing home.)</p>
<p>I was like, "Mom! What the heck? Where do I sleep when I get home? Why can't I just take the fourth room?"</p>
<p>She replied, "That room is going to be the office. We'll discuss this later."</p>
<p>I have heard of this happening to people. I know some parents see it that way that if you’re only home weekends and breaks, that they don’t need you to keep your room in their house. My parents didn’t do that. I go to college out of state, 500 miles from home, and I’m only home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and spring break. That’s it, but my room is still my room. I see their point somewhat but I also wonder where they expect the college student to stay when they’re home, so to that point it’s not ok. Do they have a guest room for you or something like that?</p>
<p>My parents would never do that but I wish they would. They still keep “my room” how it was and I haven’t lived there in years. Silly waste of space/money. I want them to enjoy their older years, make it into a… yoga lounge… or something.</p>
<p>Baby boomers through Gen Y really have trouble “letting go”.</p>
<p>Well, we have a guest room. I don’t know what they’re planning to do with my room, but I am taking a majority of my stuff with me to my new apartment.</p>
<p>I’ve got lots of friends who have had their rooms converted to game rooms or whatnot while they’ve been gone. It’s not that big of a deal if you think about it, since you really won’t be around. An air mattress isn’t that bad.</p>
<p>Though I’ve been on the other end of the spectrum. I’ve kept both of my rooms (I have a bedroom and a study). My dad has his own study, but every year when I leave, he always migrates to mine because he likes the natural lighting better in mine. lol</p>
<p>My parents are moving as well and I voluntarily opted out of having a room in the new house. Whatever I didn’t take with me to college, I either threw or gave away. It feels nice feeling nearly completely independent. Mentally, it has helped me look onward and upward.</p>
<p>Eh, that basically happened to me. My mom moved to an apartment with two bedrooms (one for her and my stepdad, one for my sister). The TV room has a sofa bed though, and she’s moving soon and will probably have at least a guest bedroom.</p>
<p>My dad moved to a townhouse with my stepmom and there’s enough bedrooms for them, my sister, and my half-brothers. </p>
<p>It’s really okay by me, since I don’t mind sleeping on a sofa bed for a night or two when I visit during the semesters. And I can also put up with it for a few weeks (winter break). Next summer I’ll hopefully have an internship so I’ll just be staying at my university house, and then I graduate next fall so my time living at home is pretty much done with anyway. Hopefully.</p>
<p>There are a total of 4 rooms in my house. Two bedrooms, bathroom, living room/kitchen/living room. My parents won’t touch my room because, quite frankly, they don’t have enough stuff to put in an extra room. It’s the “guest room” now but with all my stuff still in it. </p>
<p>I don’t care if my parents do something with my room. I’m rarely home and when I am, I often sleep on the couch anyway. They’re moving when I graduate and I’ll be able to get rid of my stuff then.</p>
<p>I say don’t take it personal , although it may feel that way. I’d love to make my daughters room into a closet (LOL) but wouldn’t do it. I will clean it up and change carpet but it will be there for her when needed.</p>
<p>Your mom may not see any alternative with an aging parent (I understand this completely) and she also may just assume that once you move out that you may not enjoy that freedom and not want to come back. (something my husband brought to my attention). She also probably didn’t even take time to think about your side of things. I’d sit down with her and at least talk to her, tell you how it made you feel so it doen’t come inbetween you guys. She may have been treated the same way herself and/or seen other friends do this to their kids and think it’s what she was expected to do.</p>
<p>Again , talk to her but don’t take it personal. She may see it as something that has to be done, but not thrilled about it herself.</p>
<p>My mom kept my bed but took over my room as her yoga room/office and a guest room. I don’t really mind, though it has been a little bit of a pain when I come home for long periods of time (like summer) to not have a closet/dresser to put stuff in…I have a lot of clothes! :P</p>
<p>It’s their house, so they can do as they please. They’ve probably been waiting 18 years to have their own office in their own house, so I wouldn’t take it personally. I’m sure you can still come home on your breaks and stay in the office, sleeping on a blow-up mattress or futon or something similar. I’m sure it’ll work out just fine.</p>