<p>Well, generally the few close friends that I have are science students like I am, so we do study together a lot and do other social things on our free time. But a girlfriend? That just isn’t reality for me, and I’m fine with that. Most girls just aren’t into guys, or “nerds”, like me. </p>
<p>I can converse with most people in a work/school setting, but generally prefer to talk to a select few on my free time who share similar interests.</p>
<p>"But a girlfriend? That just isn’t reality for me, and I’m fine with that. Most girls just aren’t into guys, or “nerds”, like me. "</p>
<p>Don’t psych yourself out. Not every girl is looking for the same thing. If you can offer companionship and a little conversation . . . you’re in the hunt.</p>
<p>Who cares about girls? They’re way overrated.</p>
<p>Learn to be friends with girls first. Takes some of the pressure and mystery away form the process. Partying and hooking up are not degree requirements. </p>
<p>Even geeky guys find GFs. Trust me on this. :)</p>
<p>Your parents just don’t know about role-playing and anime conventions and how big they have become as entertainment. It still seems like some fringe element to them.</p>
<p>Well, if it’s any comfort to you Projectile, I’m a girl and you sound a lot like my boyfriend. :)</p>
<p>Don’t worry about what your parents think about your activities. I’m a pretty hardcore nerd and I have more close friends than most of the people I know who party. They just all happen to be as nerdy (mostly nerdier) than me. </p>
<p>There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in your element. As long as you can interact socially with people who don’t have the same interests, even if you prefer those that do, tell you parents to take a chill pill. Even the girl thing will happen eventually if you let it. Perhaps it’s just a function of my group having an unusually large proportion of girl nerds, but most of my friends have had significant others. We may not be as numerous as the drunken party girls, but us female nerds are out there! Nerd on, young Padawan.</p>
<p>^^I like hyperJulie’s post. Wise, she is. :)</p>
<p>OP: you sound a lot like my DS. He’s a freshman and hasn’t made many friends and spends his spare time playing video games. He is part of some clubs and is also working on a research project, partly for credit and partly for money. Even then, sometimes I feel he is not making use of all that the college has to offer. It is just like high school, only he is now living in a dorm.</p>
<p>Sorry for the late replies, everyone. Tied up with exams.</p>
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A long time ago, I would believed this. Now, I don’t know anymore. I think those nerds that do end up with girlfriends are just outliers, while the majority live their life alone. I am okay with that, actually, but it would definitely hurt my parents. I</p>
<p>I am the mom of a serious, serious nerd. He has had no trouble dating all through college and is now seriously involved with a gorgeous, funny and NICE math/CS major. They speak the same language.</p>
<p>I told my sons a few years ago that a guy who can cook or dance will do well in the relationship department. One cooks, one dances. Just try getting out of your comfort zone a bit. </p>
<p>I, too, was a nerdy girl. Just wanted a guy who could carry on a real conversation!</p>
<p>I think there is a large difference between being a nerd vs. being a kid who is only able to converse with " select few on my free time who share similar interests." My guess is that is why your parents are nervous - anime and role play may have a part in a person’s sphere of interest, but a man(woman) is a social animal, and role play should not take over reality.
What your parents may worry about are not necessarily the college years, but life beyond, including how you will be perceived as a colleague, and consequently promoted or left behind, etc., including wife and children.
Why not try something outside your comfort zone of anime and take a cooking class, a sport, or any other activity where conversation stems from an activity? You may learn something useful and meet new people and gain new interests?</p>
<p>True story: was engaged to a guy. He ended up being a cheat and a jerk. I cried for days. Went back to work and decided to go back to university for my Master’s Degree. </p>
<p>First day of graduate level classes met a tall, smart, sweet guy who was finishing his (nerdy) PhD. He was 32. I thought “all the good guys are taken” and then this guy is in my class. We’ve been married 26 years. He’s still tall, smart and sweet. </p>
<p>So tell the folks that you’re saving yourself to make a chick happy when she reaches 30 and thinks all the good guys are taken.</p>