<p>A friend's D just texted to say her freshman roommate is afraid of the dark and wants to sleep with the room light on. A friend of mine had a roommate who was terrified to shower alone, and needed my friend to accompany her to the shower area and stick around until she had finished (presumably to protect her from a crazy killer with a chain saw). D's high school friend took a summer temp job cleaning dorms at a local college, and her crew discovered a student who could not make bowel movements in the dorm bathroom so was using boxes in her room instead. </p>
<p>We have all heard roommate adjustment stories of varying seriousness. But I hope that if my S or D had a phobia, either I'd see it was successfully treated prior to that age, or I would ask for a single or some relevant accommodation like a roommate with the same phobia, or else I would suggest they attend school locally and live at home. Should colleges require, not just request, students to disclose such needs or psychological issues so arrangements can be made in advance? I know I would be completely unable to sleep with the TV on if that was what my roommate needed. I could manage a low light, but not variable sounds. What are reasonable accommodations students should be expected to make for their roommates, and what are unreasonable? </p>