Plane Ride Away

<p>For those of you who will be attending BS for the 1st time in the fall that is a plane ride away from home, tell us how you feel about being that far from home? </p>

<p>My D will be attending BS and may choose a school that is a plane ride away, versus a couple of hour drive away. Mom and Dad (that's me) are both struggling with this possibility. However, our D is excited. I want to hear from other future BS students and whether you are excited, scared, unsure, etc.</p>

<p>If you are a returning BS student, talk about your experience when you had to take a plane ride to school.</p>

<p>I have to say that I am kinda afraid of being without my parents but I guess have to grow out sometime.</p>

<p>A few decades ago, if this were happening to me, I would be scard witless. I'd miss my mom a lot (IDK my dad all that well, he left when I was a baby).</p>

<p>But now theres loads of Electronic communication, so I can still see her, and talk to her.</p>

<p>the airfare is going to be steep though.</p>

<p>Yahh, i'm getting pretty nervous (as a student). Being a plane ride (chicago) vs. being a 3 hour drive (CT) is pretty scary. I'm still contemplating if it's right for me. (I'd attend Andover or Choate). probably andover</p>

<p>my parents are the ones who are nervous about being away from me. lol. I had to promise to email them every day.</p>

<p>MsckittlZ10 - Time wise you might actually be "closer" now than if your family didn't move. Southwest (as I'm sure you know) has great flights from Manchester, NH to Midway - you'll be there in under 3 hours. Watch the "ding" fares (easy download if you don't have it already) - sometimes you can get them for under $50 each way. </p>

<p>My kids currently go to school with several students from various parts of Asia. One of them - in 6th grade - hasn't been home since September. Parents say even 3 weeks in spring isn't long enough. I can't imagine. Most go home at Christmas and Spring. </p>

<p>In any case, as a day student parent, I know that we have boarding students over on weekends often. On long weekends, Thanksgiving, and just to give them a break from school. So, I'm sure your daughter (and you too Dazzlezzz) will make friends with either a day student, or a closer boarder to go home with. Not the same as actually going home, but it is nice and I know it's appreciated. We are under 2 hours from where my son will be and we'll continue to have him bring home further away boarders.</p>

<p>When I was your age (decades and decades ago) neither I nor my family would even dream of taking advantage of the opportunities that are in front of you now. I think it is very normal that you a bit reserved about being some great distance from your parents and home. In fact, I think deep down your parents would like to know that. I know there is a fine line with knowing you are a bit scared but not too scared. But as a parent, it makes me feel good that my D will very much miss home. But we pray that she is ready for this next step in her development. I am sure you are as well.</p>

<p>I have learned that kids travel alone during the breaks, i.e. their parents do not fly to their school to pick them up and fly them home. The schools provide transportation to and from the local airports. Have you thought about riding on a plane alone?</p>

<p>I've been on plenty of plane rides and couple of them alone so I should be okay on riding alone to go home.
But I think that the state of being away from home is definitely harder in my opinion.</p>

<p>i live across the country from where id go to school, and i have to say that im not nervous at the moment. i am so excited to live on my own, i have been looking forward to this opportunity for a longggggg time. haha. but, then again, i do have a feeling that once i am there, i will tear up a bit. but, currently, my parents are the scared ones.</p>

<p>We parents will mostly likely be a bit more afraid then you. If it were the opposite, more of you would not attend BS. Trust me when I say, there is nothing scarier then having you kid go out there in the world, at such a young age, without your immediate protection. Yes, the confines of the school campus are safe, but relying on others to care for your own is tough. It takes faith and prayer. We tell our D that all of the training she has received will be put to the test from day 1.</p>

<p>Both my sons have been travelling on their own since the summer after 6th grade. They attended different summer programs that were a plane ride away -- and we simply didn't have the money to accompany them. </p>

<p>They haven't had any problems and are very comfortable flying on their own -- this includes layovers. They have flown both in the US and multiple times internationally.</p>

<p>A few hints for those who have never had a child fly alone:</p>

<p>**for a few extra dollars, you can have your child fly as an accompanied minor (even older kids can do this). This might be the best option if your child has not flown alone before and doesn't have much experience flying even with others or if they are particularly nervous.</p>

<p>**don't book the last flight of the day (if the flight is cancelled, your child is stuck at the airport for the night)</p>

<p>**try to book a non-stop flight. If you can't, make sure the layover is long enough that your child has plenty of time to make the connection (at least an hour). Remember that flights can be late, so a one hour layover may end up being only 30 mins long if the original flight if running late. </p>

<p>**if you have a layover, try and pick a smaller airport to layover at. The larger ones can be overwhelming to first time flyers. </p>

<p>** check the arrival and departure times and try and arrange them logically. too early of a departure and everyone is running around like mad trying to get to the airport on time -- which isn't a pleasant way to start a trip and may add to the nervousness of an inexperienced traveller. Too late of an arrival and it is dark, which bothers some people. Check with those who are picking up the child on the other end and dropping them off on the return flight to see what times work best.</p>

<p>**buy early for the best choice of times. low bidding on priceline is not the way to go when sending your student.</p>

<p>We also have a set of rules that we set up for both our kids when they fly. These always make everyone feel better and keep problems down to a minimum.</p>

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<li><p>carry your cell phone with you and make sure the charger is in your carry-on (we instituted this rule after my oldest had to spend the night in the Miami airport and his cell phone ran out of batteries. Luckily another traveller let him use his charger)</p></li>
<li><p>get your boarding pass online the night before you leave.</p></li>
<li><p>select your seats online (if possible) ahead of time.</p></li>
<li><p>bring only carry-on luggage if possible (it just makes things easy). This is not possible, of course, for longer trips or when you head to school.</p></li>
<li><p>Make sure the following items are in the carry-on: $20 in cash, a calling card, cell phone, cell phone charger, picture ID (you can get a state ID for any age, which is just like a driver's license except you can't drive), important phone numbers (mom, dad, phone number of whoever is picking the student up, any other emergency numbers -- like the school), itinerary with flight info, including ticket information, snacks and water (those peanuts don't satisfy the normal appetite of a teenager -- and food at airports cost tons of money), something to occupy the kid (book, video game, etc) and any special info for medical issues (written) that could be given to an adult if the child has an issue (think diabetes, peanut allergy, etc). </p></li>
<li><p>Call home once you are on the plane seated (before take-off), call once the plane touches down (before you deplane). This includes any additional take-offs and landings during a layover. If there is a layover, I also have them call me when they reach the next flight's gate and again just before boarding.</p></li>
<li><p>If you have a layover, the first thing the student must do is find their next gate and go there -- even if they have a 3 hour layover. then they may get something to eat or check out the airport. Kids invariably underestimate the time it takes to get from one gate to another -- particularly at large airports. </p></li>
<li><p>Finally -- they have to call once they get picked up and again when they get to their destination.</p></li>
<li><p>don't wear any clothing article or anything else with the child's name on it that someone standing close could read. Even though your 13 year old knows better than to go with a stranger, if they are confused and overwhelmed it might be easy for a stranger dressed in a business suit to address them by name and say they were told by the airline to "help" them. </p></li>
<li><p>Our rule is that the only people that my sons are allowed to talk with or ask for help are uniformed security guards or uniformed airline personnel. this is only if they are the ones that approach for help. If someone else approaches them and offers to assist them -- they must ask for a picture ID and may not leave the area where other passengers/personnel are. This may sound like I am being paranoid -- but better safe than sorry. My kids know that they are not allowed to accept offers to "wait in the private lounge, gold club, etc" even if the airline is just being nice. </p></li>
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<p>Anyway -- that is a long post, but we have not had any major issues and my kids are comfortable flying. Yes -- they have missed flights, had emergency landings (that was exciting for them), been rerouted to other airports, had lost and damaged luggage, and spent the night stuck in the airport -- but they treated it as an adventure and always kept their cool. Being able to call mom and dad at anytime is great for calming them down.</p>

<p>final suggestion for parents -- always stay calm no matter what your child tells you is the issue (youngest had a late flight, caused him to miss the connection, got a later connection -- which then had an emergency landing due to a medical emergency at a different airport, got yet another connection, then weather caused the plane to be grounded and he spent the night at the airport. He still thinks that was a "cool" trip). your nervousness will cause them to panic even more.</p>

<p>And -- when all else fails, tell your kids to cry and look pitiful. This works well when your child has missed their flight, etc -- people are always willing to help some poor kid on his own. works wonders at getting to the front of an hour long line at security when your kid has 10 minutes to get to the gate.</p>

<p>hsmonstef - WOW! That is one of the best posts I have read thus far. It is packed with incredibly important information, experiences and recommendations. It all makes sense as well. </p>

<p>Every parent and student that flies or will be flying in the FALL should read your post. Thanks a bunch!</p>

<p>you're welcome -- many of the "rules" were learned the hard way when my oldest first flew. things go much smoother these days.</p>

<p>I'll agree - great set of tips and rules.</p>

<p>If you don't mind, I'll add a couple of additional thoughts...</p>

<p>**If you have a choice between connecting cities, choose the one with the best chance for good weather at that time of year (avoid snow/ice in winter t-storms in fall/spring). Secreases chances for flights being delayed/cancelled.</p>

<p>**If you can connect in a city near relatives or friends, it is a bonus in the event the connection is messed up, leaving someone to take in your child instead of spending the night in the terminal.</p>

<p>**If you can connect in a city reasonably near home when flying home, it adds another option (drive and pickup) in the event that your child is stranded due to problems.</p>

<p>**Have a credit card available for your child to use in the event that the airline has suddenly changed its luggage policy or has the baggage nazi on duty (that bag looks too big - add $84 for oversized) and has to pony up.</p>

<p>**Make sure your child knows what items won't get through security so s/he won't put them in his/her carry-on. Believe it or not hockey skates are considered weapons.</p>

<p>**Make sure your child knows never to check his/her laptop.</p>

<p>great additions! Amazing what constitutes a weapon nowadays!!</p>

<p>Agree. These are great additions. </p>

<p>What about the initial trip in the fall and last trip in the spring? Is it customary to drive to school during the initial drop off? I read that some families drive from many hours away because of the load of personal possesions required by new students.</p>

<p>When my daughter went to Interlochen, it was two plane rides away and in a climate prone to winter problems. The kids gain a lot of maturity at BS, and, admittedly, D was a junior when she went. There were a couple of travel problems, be we all survived.</p>

<p>As far as missing her- yes, it was harder than if we could hop in the car. In fact, we never once made the drive. It just didn't work out with work schedules and it was really a long drive. We went up for all her major performances, parents weekend and to take her on a midwest college visit swing. It was all worth it. </p>

<p>WildChild was one plane ride and a 75 minute drive away. We went up as often as we could and talked to him online or by phone frequently (too frequently, in his opinion). Believe it or not, you still have a lot of contact with your kid. The thing I missed was the parent network. Interlochen was amazing in that we had a great website and chatted even before the kids enrolled. It was a great forum and helped us stay connected to the school, other families and our own kids.</p>

<p>Great info...and more specifically for west coast families...in the winter avoid like the plague connecting through any northern midwest city - chicago, cincinatti, etc. Salt Lake, Denver and Dallas are more reliable. And it might seem silly to fly your kid through Washington or even Atlanta if you are heading to the west coast, but it often is the best way.</p>

<p>As far as the initial drop off visit -- we are going to fly. the drive is just too much for us -- too much time off work, too much driving, too much gas, too much time in the car. If the drive was under 11 hours -- we would drive, but for us it would be a 30 hour drive. </p>

<p>I know he will have lots of stuff -- but I figure we can each bring 2 pieces of luggage (my, hubby and son) so that is alot of stuff. Some of the basics -- like linens -- we will buy there. The biggest issue is that my son wants a bike on campus. If he can store it on campus over the summer, we will just buy him one there.</p>

<p>my dad and i just bought macs with the built in icamera = that way we can message each other with real time picture.</p>