<p>Hi, as you can tell by my title, I'm really stressed out right now. Me and my best friend are going to UCSC and he's already accepted his admission. However, I haven't, and I now realize that the college I suggested based off of others' suggestions (College 8) is actually not a good choice. We really want to be in the same college, and I fear that I've screwed him over, and I don't wanna choose College 8 if it isn't good.</p>
<p>So here's my important question: IS IT POSSIBLE TO CHANGE YOUR PREFERENCES AFTER YOU ACCEPT THE OFFER OF ADMISSION?</p>
<p>If it is, HOW?!! I'm really stressing out cause I don't want him to be ****ed at me for suggesting a bad college, and then I don't even go too. Since he hasn't been assigned a college, can he call/go online and change his preferences so we both end up at the same college?</p>
<p>THANK YOU!!!!</p>
<p>So, first thing to do is calm down.</p>
<p>Second thing to do is realize that you’re making your choices and he is making his. You can’t live his life nor he yours. Make the best decision for yourself. If he wants to change based on your choice, that’s fine. And just because you’re not in the same college doesn’t mean you’d never see each other.</p>
<p>You can change your mind. Email college A and say thanks, but my plans have changed, and I won’t be attending this fall. Then email college B, and say thanks! I will be delighted to attend this fall. You will almost certainly lose any deposits paid to college A, but that is it.</p>
<p>You can certainly tell a college that you accepted that you have changed your mind and won’t be coming. (That happens all the time when kids get off the wait list somewhere else.) The problem for your friend is telling colleges that he turned down that he has changed his mind and now wants to attend. If he chose his school primarily because he assumed you would be there, that was a bad decision on his part. And hopefully, it’s not true. Compounding the bad decision by attending a school that’s wrong for you, is misguided loyalty. You need to talk to him right away to make sure he’s making the best choice for him and hasn’t closed off his alternatives for the wrong reason.</p>
<p>I think all of you are missing the point…</p>
<p>I think OP wants to attend UCSC, but doesn’t want to attend the college. UCSC is essentially collegiate, like Oxbridge. The main difference being that you live in your college, rather than are taught within your college. </p>
<p>I think the OP just wants to change his college within the University – not go to a completely different university.</p>
<p>I may have misunderstood what you meant, if so, feel free to say so.</p>
<p>Well if it is just changing the college within the university, then pick up the phone, call them, and ask how to do it! If it can be done, then take care of it. If it can’t be, then find out what your options are.</p>