<p>Okay the topic is: Describe a circumstance, obstacle or conflict in your life, and the skills and resources you used to resolve it. Did it change you? If so, how?</p>
<p>heres my essay:</p>
<p>10 years. 10 years is the age gap between my brother and I. When I was born he was entering 5th grade. When I entered first grade, he was getting his license. When I started 3rd grade he was leaving for college. Because we didnt necessarily grow up together, I always like to think of him as my third parent. He helped me when I fell off my bike and scratched my knees. He picked me up from daycare everyday. He taught me how to fish and play checkers. And he encourages and believes in me more then any other person in my life. 10 years. 10 years is also the amount of time my brother will spend in prison.</p>
<p>In 2009 my brother was involved in a drunk driving accident and unfortunately killed two people. The initial shock of it all put me into a daze for most of my freshman year of high school. I started to become very introverted and lost many friends and began missing out on normal high school things to sit in my room and wallow. As my home life transformed from its usual quiet sanctuary to a whirlwind of chaos filled to the brim with lawyers and doctors, I found myself delving into a cocoon to escape the reality that was now my life. I was ashamed of what was happening and embarrassed to now be the subject of pity.</p>
<p>Growing up I was always the center of attention. I always got what I wanted and always knew where I stood. After the accident I was thrown onto the back burner and my parents lives now only revolved around their eldest child. I learned that I was not a princess and that although at times it seemed as if I was an only child, I definitely was not. </p>
<p>As a teenager you learn more and more about yourself. You become the person that you are going to be for the rest of your life. You set morals and goals and find out who you truly are as a person. This tragedy not only muddled my whole outlook on life but also made me completely aware of the unfairness and realities of life. I could no longer be a ditzy teenager who was oblivious of the struggles and pains of our existence. I was thrust into adulthood in more ways than one. Yes, I was still loved and cared for by my parents, but no, my parents were no longer fully there as they used to be. Physically they were there, but mentally they were disconnected and always thinking and worrying about my brother. </p>
<p>I began to grow up and not rely so much on their attention. After a couple of years I realized that punishing myself for a mistake my brother made was not going to benefit me in any way. I began getting active in clubs in my school and gained a new group of friends who were honest and encouraging and had the same interests and goals as me. I began to socialize and got my normal pre-accident jovial and lighthearted attitude back. </p>
<p>While I was not directly in either of the cars that were involved in this accident, this event shaped who I am today. It changed me to be a more loving and patient person with my family. It showed me how to act and handle situations out of our control. And more importantly it showed me that life isnt and never will be fair, but thats okay. </p>
<p>Okay I really dont like the last sentence of the essay so any help on ways to revise that would be greaat! also any notes or areas where i could improve it would be extremely helpful! thank you!</p>