<p>This article - or something very similar - was posted on the music forum before (by me) but I can't find it now. </p>
<p>I believe all three of my kids were born with a high level of musical ability, and all are extremely accomplished. The middle one developed a passion above and beyond the other two. I could analyze it forever, and still not be sure why. He showed early promise - creating series of musical notes he would sing over and over before he could even talk. He gots lots of attention for it, and continues now, at age 21, to get lots of attention for it. It might be "I like what I'm good at." </p>
<p>My D, who has an excellent ear, nimble fingers, a fair amount of talent - has always been shadowed by a "star" - each of her teachers has always had another student at least a little bit better, who got the solos, the leads, the prizes. Plus, she follows her brother. Where S2 has always been surrounded by people who are effusive and encouraging, even when he plays poorly, D seems to get teachers (especially at school) who don't reward her at all because they don't want to give her a big head. (Sometimes I wonder if this is the difference between string programs and band programs.)</p>
<p>My D currently sits last chair, first violins at school (in the top orchestra, though.) In the county youth orchestra, she is assistant concertmaster, and recently won the concerto competition. The other kids think it's ridiculous that she sits where she does at school, and I'm sure it's the teacher's way of keeping her humble. Yet, I wonder where she could have gone with the right encouragement. It's been fun watching the reactions of teachers as she's made the rounds of college visits and sample lessons. And it's been fun seeing my D's response to those encouraging sessions.</p>
<p>Looking at the discussion from a different angle - I do believe a certain amount of "tone deafness" comes from a lack of early exposure. Children can be taught to sing on key, for example, up to about age 10 or 12. But it has to matter to them and to those working with them. So many prodigies, such as Mozart, may have benefited from good genes, or maybe just from early exposure in a musical family. You see on here often parents who are not musical, but have musical children. I wonder how many of them exposed their kids to good music (or lots of music) at home, and/or had good teachers in early childhood.</p>