I know of a private day school in Connecticut that does this. It’s taught by a cop. Scary stuff!
Was it only MJ? I thought it was cocaine?
@ChoatieMom yes, the famous incident involving Choate kids was cocaine. I’m sure they got the idea from somewhere!
There was even a movie based on the situation at Choate – The Preppie Connection.
My public school just updated our drug and alcohol policy to include punishing kids for off campus offenses. The new policy, however, only applies to kids in extracurricular activities because participating in them is considered a “privilege” and thus the school can mandate us agreeing to harsh rules in order to participate. The policy states that kids will receive a suspension of one game/event for a first infraction in their activity and have to attend a four week course a second infraction shuts down all participation and mandates a longer course. This policy disproportionately affects high achievers who are in multiple activities because the suspension takes place in each activity. If I was to get caught off campus drinking I would have to sit out my next MUN conference, track meet, band concert, and orchestra concert. My grade in track and band would be adversely affected (missing a concert drops you a full letter grade and missing a track meet loses you several points) by this and coaches have the discretion to implement a harsher policy. While we do not have a specific policy on alerting colleges getting kicked off the track team or MUN (both those teachers have their own zero tolerance policies) would trigger my councilor to report the schedule change to my college. My point is that even public schools have policies that extend off campus and affect students’ ECs. The policy I’ve described was voted on by our student leadership council (heads of all sports teams and major electives) and I was the only one to object to it (I think it’s legally suspect and doesn’t accomplish what it wants).
Ethics violations are automatically reported to colleges by the administration, however, some teachers will handle it within the confines of their classroom instead of alerting the admin to reduce the future repercussions suffered by the student.
My kid’s BS had to exercise the one strike rule last week.
The students note it is hard for them to take advantage of any of the forgiveness or reporting policies-they hesitate to take advantage of the health center policy because they know if they take a drunk or high friend to the health center, the friend may not be expelled but their parents will still be notified (duh). It’s a tough situation but ultimately, it is illegal so no one’s right to just look away.
I think most parents would rather get the notification that their child was taken to the health center under a sanctuary policy and receiving counseling and other support than getting the call that says, “hey, come pick up your kid because they are getting expelled.” Lousy teen logic.
A bit off topic as this is a college example of harsh consequences for bad decision making, but the UCMJ just sentenced a sophomore at West Point to 21 years in Leavenworth for raping another cadet during summer field exercises:
This kid’s original dreams are over. He has 21 years to figure out what to do with the rest of his life. His parents must be reeling.
The young lady soldiers on at the academy. Not sure how you find a new normal after this.
ChoatieCorporal says this has cast a pall over the fort and the upcoming graduation festivities as the SAs take their honor codes very seriously. Whenever a brother or sister falls, they all fall.
@ChoatieMom So sad that an impulse could not be controlled and subsequently did irreparable damage to so many.
@ChoatieMom , crushing story on so many levels.
Don’t mean to derail this thread, just thought it might be useful to point out to the kids reading here that there can be devasting consequences for bad decisions anytime in life. Your life will be the sum of your decisions; make good ones.
Back to the original topic.
@ChoatieMom Although it is a tragic story and the young woman will no doubt experience some lasting effects of the assault, I admire her strength to continue as a cadet. I am glad the military is finally starting to dole out harsh punishment for such crimes and hopefully it will send the message that this type of behavior will no longer be swept away. Unfortunately, the comments to the article are appalling.
Don’t know what they found eventually for the verdict, but looking at the report linked in the news (http://www.recordonline.com/news/20170501/west-point-cadets-court-martial-trial-starts), it didn’t sound like a very strong case to begin with - at least not one for a 21 year jail time verdict. Well, let’s say it’s very, very “bad timing” to commit such a crime when the sexual assaults in the army are grabbing the national spotlight.
21 years is an exceptionally long sentence for a first time offender. UCMJ is different than state court, but it would be in the top 1% of sentence length for this offense by a similarly situated defendant. I would love to see the trial testimony in this case. The link provided by @panpacific summarizing the incident is interesting - sounds like a competent defense attorney would have been able to have a field day with this. Unfortunately, the JAG decides who your attorney will be.
This just in from my DD school - 2 seniors had their admissions rescinded by an IVY after partying on the IVY campus. When the Boarding School found out both students were suspended for the remainder of the year. One will walk with the class for graduation bc he did not lie about the incident to the schools, while the other will be at home for trying to cover his ass.
I can’t help but feel terrible for these kids. They worked so hard to get into this school. Hard to fault them for Senoritis- However, they made stupid choices, and will have to live with the consequences. Both students are taking GAP years. Feel terrible for the parents! Graduation after 4 long years should be be an exciting time…
That is an awful story @copperboom. My daughter’s school has sent so many messages to parents and students from what I’ve heard. They also have several dates that are important and if students want to walk at commencement, they need a clean record in the days leading up to the big event.
It sucks for those students but they are warned and it does make the school look bad. Any idea how the Ivy knew, @copperboom? Were they being “drunk and disorderly”? One danger to visiting these schools prior graduation, is that kids will frequently know BS alum at the colleges and the opportunities to partake are readily available and offered. I could easily see it happening. :-"
Yeah, I’d like a clarification on that as well. Did the Ivy rescind because it found out on its own, or did it rescind as a result of the BS suspension?
Clearly, so can I.
One of the boys ended up at the emergency room- for what I can not say ( drunken injury, alcohol poisoning?..) but, yes, the IVY school was clearly involved BEFORE the boarding school. The boarding school suspended the students bc they have a policy that students are not allowed to drink while students at (X)BS, even off campus or during breaks ( read: be careful with social media!) The Boarding School is NOT happy about it. Who can blame them. It’s several weeks before graduation. These are two of their success stories and by all accounts great kids. My DD knows both of them, and one of them very well. Good kids doing stupid things… Makes you rethink allowing your kids visit friends at college-