<p>so my senior prom is in 2 weeks and I recently asked Girl 1 to go with me. I didn't know that well to it. although Girl 1 has never told me this explicitly, [verbal cues, overhearing my parents talk about her parents forcing her to go, and her ignoring my recent phone calls] have led me to highly suspect that her parents made her say yes. there's Girl 2 who actually wanted to go w/ me, but i had already asked this 1st girl. now i really don't know what to do; should i try to talk to 1st girl and say i wouldn't enjoy prom if she didnt' really want to go w/ me and ask the 2nd girl instead? i'm really distressed right now and DESPERATELY need advice. </p>
<p>now that i look at it, i'm sorry for being such a loser, lol. help, anyone?</p>
<p>i'd say your obligated to go with girl 1....b/c you did ask her to go. but if you are really sure that she doesnt want to go with you try talking to her first, instead of girl 2...that way you wont be in an even bigger mess than you are (maybe) in now...</p>
<p>how do i say this to girl 1 without sounding like i'm accusing her? should i just ask her flat out if she really wants to go with me or not-maybe i should tell her about my situation and how i didn't want Girl 1 to feel awkward going w/ someone she didn't want to go with?</p>
<p>you could mention to her that you werent intending the prom date/invite to be anything romantic and if she wanted to go w/someone else, or felt like she would have fun going w/a group of her friends, she can. </p>
<p>it might turn out that she really does want to go w/you and is just really shy (but idk her, the situation, etc)</p>
<p>overall, just follow your intuition. things will work out in the long run. if you're positive no matter what, prom will be a good experiance---sry if this is radically corny, etc</p>
<p>should i tell Girl 1 that Girl 2 really wanted to go w/ me and I had to reject her for her? i don't want her to think that I'm not sacrificing anything by going w/ her...</p>
<p>agreed. that's probably not a good idea. really...all you need to do it let her know that you don't have any "serious" intentions...that frees you up so you can still dance and w/e w/girl 2. </p>
<p>if you go w/girl 1, you can tell girl 2 (maybe) that you really wanted to go with her...but felt a commitment to the other girl who you promised to go with. girl 1 will be at ease (and can deal) and, while girl 2 may be disappointed at first, she'll see your integrity and respect you more for that than if you went around talking to girl 1 w/a bad attitude, etc...</p>
<p>black-out grl, what do you mean when you want me to tell Girl 1 i don't have "serious" intentions? what does that have anything to do w/ whether she wants to go w/ me or not? </p>
<p>just that you want to just have a good time....i mean, like, just take the pressure off of her (and you) whether or not she wants to go w/you or not--if she doesnt really, then you both can just go "as friends" </p>
<p>maybe it doesnt make much sense--but, idk, in my mind it does....</p>
<p>to those who say dump Girl #1, prom is in two weeks and that would just be cruel, how would you feel if someone did that to you? At the same time, this girl is being a bit of a twit by not returning your calls</p>
<p>I would call Girl 1 up, and leave this message or if she actually talks to you:</p>
<p>Hi, um, you haven't been returning my calls, and the prom is coming up, I am not sure what is going on. We need to talk about plans. But, I do want to say I do want to go to the prom with you, but I would totally understand if you changed your mind. That being said, we do need to talk soon so we can both figure out stuff. So give me a call back soon.</p>
<p>(this way she can opt out, but you are still doing the right thing.)</p>
<p>black-out grl i get what ur saying, and thx for the advice everyone! looks like i'm just going to have to genuinely talk to her about what's going on...</p>
<p>just say to girl #1: "You know, I kind of feel like you might rather not go to prom with me. Is this the case? Because that's totally cool with me...prom won't be fun for either of us if we're not into it."</p>