End Assessment:
At the very best, you find a solid group of friends that you can do things with that you maybe wouldn’t have the the resources to do outside of Greek Life… like formals and date parties were always fun. At the worst, it is all the stereotypes, binge drinking/drugs, and the toxic cultures that is shown in the media.
Would I do it again? I don’t know. I found some really interesting and wonderful people, an organization which promoted diversity within the organization (but later became less diverse with the new incoming classes), and aimed to “defy stereotypes.” It is good if you are trying to meet new people. But it still functioned as a typical Greek organization… which I found incredibly limiting given that primarily focused on the social aspect, had mandatory rituals/meetings that felt archaic, had a high cost barrier to entry, and took up a lot of time … when I think it could be so much more. In comparison to some of my other organizations, which focused on community service, some sort of broader purpose, or getting to know eachother outside of a party context, I found that to be more lacking in the experience. The organization can be good for people that find a place there, but can also be very exclusive to those that are not and has its issues.
I think the main benefits in comparison to other organizations: is more structure, more social opportunities (specifically in the form of parties), a larger network, and more time spent with those people – otherwise a person will likely find just find as much happiness joining any another organization, just my two cents.
My main advice it to see if that is something that appeals to your son/daughter in the first place, and to check the college specifically to see how it manifests itself. A college with more things to do/ a strong community or near a vibrant city will provide more social opportunities outside of Greek Life. I would be concerned if it was the only option… or most students say that is the only thing to do there. I would be cautious of joining if she doesn’t necessarily like parties, but others have said it has helped them become more outgoing. While I have limited experience with sororities, from my friend’s experience I have found that some of them have more internal bonding and have more things that they try to do outside of just hosting parties all the time. For instance “big/little” relationships, which can be a positive thing that I forgot to mention above. (However this is not exclusive to Greek life, as many other college organizations have adopted similar types of structures and relationships)
Edit: Someone above mentioned William & Mary. I think it is a school with a fairly healthy Greek scene in comparison to some other schools, of course with its own issues. It strikes a good balance as something you can try if you are interested in, without being too overbrearing. It has a strong community and other things to do to boot, so a possible consideration if you are interested.