<p>Okay, my question for all girls on CC is: why do all girls fall for trash or "bad boys"??????
i mean, can't you see they're trash who wont treat you well??
and plz dont say you dont fall for "bad boys" (<---trash), cuz you do. im not trying to sound misgynistic, im trying to be honest and am trying to learn.
girls really dont seem to care about the person. my ex fell for me cuz i was a "bad ass" when she was around. (not completely on purpose). after we had been dating for like 6 months things started turning bad in my life so i tried to turn to her for help. and what'd i get? nothing. she hardly talked to me. rather got me. love lost. anyways, why??
also, the girl i like now is falling for another trashy guy. someone who wont treat her well. why do girls overlook the guys who will treat them well and be good boyfriends to them?</p>
<p>“All girls” really is an exaggeration. Generalizations and blanket terms really don’t help your argument.
Using internet spelling doesn’t really help your case either. If you want an explanation for why some girls will prefer “bad boys” there are many many psychology magazine and science research articles on the subject. It mainly has to do with the “bad boys” being more bold and displaying more confidence.
A lot of times, girls [especially adolescent girls] will feel that they do not deserve to be treated well… and so they put up with the “bad boy” behavior…</p>
<p>Also, we’re talking about teenagers anyway… so it’s important to note that the human brain doesn’t fully mature until age ~ 25.</p>
<p>Just my two cents ~</p>
<p>it’s not an argument buddy, it’s a question.
and sorry, i’ll be sure to spell “please” and “because” just for you next time.
appreciate your (unhelpful) two cents.</p>
<p>Girls are biologically programmed to be attracted to men with the most testosterone because the more testosterone they have, the more likely they are to be impregnated and have strong healthy children. When women are in the part of their cycle where they are most fertile they are even more than usual attracted to “bad boys”. The problem is the guys that have much higher testosterone levels are also the ones that are most likely to cheat and abandon their partner while guys with lower testosterone levels were more likely to stick around.</p>
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<p>Thank you for clarifying that! I’m sure all those girls with nice, sweet, caring boyfriends now feel plain silly for not seeing through them! Huh, and to think this only happens to girls too. If only they had guys’ good sense of never falling for anyone less than perfect.</p>
<p>Look, this is not something that girls do. It’s something that ** people ** do. They don’t always know what’s best for them, and so might gravitate towards a “bad boy/girl”. This also might be a symptom of youth. As ViTong said, maturity brings a more reasonable (although love is hardly reasonable) thought process (for lack of a better word).</p>
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<p>Lol because this is how actual relationships, especially ones involving children, work.</p>
<p>Well, the majority of girls like the “bad guy.” Just like the majority of guys like the “hot girl.”</p>
<p>For those of us that look for the minority that actually care, it’s tough. I share your frustration. </p>
<p>From personal experience, I hate the girls that fall for the “bad guy.” Really annoys me off lol. Someone who just wants the girl cause she’s hot (and for his rep), and she thinks he loves her. It’s sad. But then I realized that I myself was into certain girls just cause they were attractive and seemingly nice (I was just like the girl). I ignored that they were superficial at heart, uncaring of who I am (taking me for granted), or whatever. </p>
<p>So the lesson, I guess, is let those “trashy” girls that mingle with the “bad guys.” Let em get their hearts broken, and let the guy live in his delusioned bubble that he is “the man.” Instead, find a girl that you can truly be yourself around, and truly get to know her. Be comfortable around eachother, and let the trashy girls mingle with trashy guys. Trust me, once you find “that girl” you won’t care about all the others that fall for the “bad guy.”</p>
<p>woohoo guys. id love to join in. but cant see the point of posting this in “college” confidential. what do you want? aspiring college students to help you out with your love life? as if they already dont have enough things to deal with.</p>
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Its how basic attraction works. Not that its a hundred percent true a hundred percent of the time but woman tend to be attracted towards “masculine” men - guys with more confidence and that are more likely to take risks. You hear all the time about women wanting a nice sensitive guy but most women will say that a guy who cries is a turnoff.</p>
<p>Not a girl, but I will repost for you what has basically become my be-all-end-all response to this sort of thing:</p>
<p>Girls aren’t attracted to assho1es. They’re attracted to nice guys who have the capacity to be assho1es–alphas. In the wild (hah), women sought security in a mate. Who’s attracted to a weak, wishy-washy, depressed person? No girl I know.</p>
<p>Fact is, anyone can be nice. But to truly have the capacity to be mean, you gotta have the force to back it up. Remember McFly from Back to the Future? He only got the girl after he clocked Biff in the face. Before that, he was a weakling, but he toughened up and got his “alpha” on! (He technically had his son from 30 years later come back in time to help him but, y’know, details…) Why does such a tale feel so familiar? Because it is.</p>
<p>‘Nother thing. Guys and girls approach dating and relationships very differently. A girl can say a guy is “cute” and never even dream of having sex with him. When a guy says that a girl is cute, he means he wants it and he wants it bad. Just sayin’</p>
<p>I don’t think girls mean to all of the time. If you’re not confident in yourself I could see someone falling for someone that isn’t good for them. I don’t go for “bad asses” though. I’d rather have someone I can trust, ya know?</p>
<p>We don’t. We go for the attractive, caring, intelligent guys. But sometimes there aren’t any decent guys around so we settle for less. Or maybe the bad boys emanate qualities that we wish we had (aka we wish we were more daring or rebellious?). Or maybe the bad boys are the only ones with enough confidence and guts to actually approach us? I personally am waiting for my prince charming so its hard for me to answer this question…</p>