<p>Do you think it's worth it to dress up? I've gotten so sick of being hit on by really creepy guys that I'm starting to question whether it's even worth it to try to look nice anymore. I wish I still had faith that there are some decent guys left out there, no I know there are decent guys, it's just so exhausting dealing with the icky ones.</p>
<p>Does not dressing up even work (to not attract attention from icky people)? Or do they still act creepy?</p>
<p>sorry, i'm a guy, but i'll still answer.</p>
<p>the best thing you could possibly do is dress up AND approach a guy OF YOUR CHOICE. woo wee, that would make my day.</p>
<p>that way you would only have to blame yourself for not finding the right guy RATHER THAN BLAME THE ENTIRE OPPOSITE GENDER. :p</p>
<p>I never dress up and i still get lots of attention. I actually try to dress down because I hate getting attention from guys. I also don't wear any makeup. I just hate it when guys stare at me. What is worse is when a group of guys stare at me. I knew that they were talking about me and analyzing me. This makes me feel self conscious.</p>
<p>Speaking from the experience of a previous roommate of mine (as I am not a girl), dressing down and not wearing make-up won't prevent getting attention from creepy guys. Sorry.</p>
<p>Guys will always be creepy. Obviously you're hot. It sucks, but you just have to deal with it.</p>
<p>I don't dress up to go out. Mostly because I enjoy my more comfortable clothes (and shoes, especially). I do tend to get attention from exclusively creepy guys though.</p>
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<p>Exactly. If you want to attract the right people, be around those kind of people. If you like the more intellectual types, find them at those kind of clubs/classes for example.</p>
<p>I've found that it's not really what I wear that will get rid of unwanted attention; it's the finely honed look of abject disdain and contempt that I shoot any creep that approaches. It took some practice, but I've got it down to a science. Ive made one of the most lecherous guys on campus stop dead in his tracks and stutter an apology. That just might be my finest moment.</p>
<p>define "creepy guy".... This thread makes it seem like a lot of guys are being all obnoxious, like you would see in the strip clubs or what not... are they whistling at you, sticking their tongue between their two fingers in a 'v' shape? what?</p>
<p>Or are you so shallow to be defining a creepy guy as one who hasn't shaved for a few days, and that's it?</p>
<p>I actually find that the more dressed-up and confident-looking I am, the less attantion I get from creepy guys. My opinion? The creepy guys are drawn to the insecure girls - either those dressed like sluts because they think guys want that or those who are dressed-down because they fear attantion from guys. The creeps know they have a better chance of scoring with these girls.</p>
<p>Avoid unwanted attantion by attaching yourself to a good-looking guy. That intimidates and scares away all the creeps.</p>
<p>I am still in high-school (a small high-school though) and I have yet to meet someone who would be defined as "creepy". More insecure, shyer people, yes. Creepy? No</p>
<p>I would define creepy as:
~following people and telling them not to run away repetativley while chasing them (and being 40)
~pulling up to someone in a car, opening the door, and yelling things to the effect of "your hot, get in my car" only not so tame
~questioning someone intensley about whether or not they gave a boyfriend, and if he's faithful (while on MUNI so u can't even run away)
~being 35ish and handing a girl a note thatsays, "I see that your talking with your friends, but I think you're really beautiful, and ive been watching you. here's my number lets have lunch"</p>
<p>things to that effect define creepy for me.</p>
<p>The good looking guy idea sounds like a good one. hehe now I just have to find one of those!</p>
<p>I guess I assumed that "creepy" in this thread was referring to "creepy" while at school... not out 'n about in the cities.</p>
<p>when i was in france i got lots of attention from creepy guys and i dress modestly, have worn wigs (didnt feel like doing hair), worn scraves to cover my hair, etc and yet there was always some creepy old guy (like grampa) trying to talk to me). I literally would get things like "oh, it's a beautiful day today isn't it? Wanna to go get a beer? Oh, not now? How bout tomorrow? How bout Sunday then?" And also stuff like "i adore your fairness, we MUST see each other again!" and even, from a younger guy but still creepy because he followed me home that night and tried to kiss me...he said "Oh, when two people meet like this, we must take the time to get to know each other because we may never have this chance again!" or something to that effect. Yeah, very creepy. My best advice would be to actually ignore them and keep walking if you don't want to deal with them because they will get the point. My problem is, I never wan to be "rude" and always feel somewhat intimidated and inclined to respond, but sometimes you just have to be rude. I will say that European men are about 50 times creepier than American men.</p>
<p>I think that if you dress up it's for yourself when you want to look good and have more confident. Don't dress up because you want to please someone else or to attract attention. If you're at school, then just wear regular and comfortable clothes. And when you go out, go with your friends so those guys won't do anything dangererous to you.</p>
<p>I'm a guy, but just feel the need to point out that being creepy is not something that only guys can do. I've known some very creepy girls in the past.</p>
<p>Also something I tell my sister when I'm not around. A good bet on judging what you're wearing is simply to ask yourself "Would my big brother (even if you don't have one, pretend) approve." :)</p>
<p>i agree completely with the poster who said to take friends (especially guys) with you to parties, etc. i usually go out with both girl and guy friends and i've never had any problems with creepy guys.</p>
<p>p.s. you should look nice for YOU, not for anyone else. thats what i always tell myself anyway. :-)</p>
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<p>the reality is: it is for SOMEBODY else. Whether you trick yourself into thinking that it's for you, or you are admittedly aware that it IS for others, you are dressing nice to either impress others directly, or securing your own self-consciousness at a level that assists your own lack of confidence among others (i.e. if you don't dress well enough, you may not feel good enough to "be yourself" in a crowd). Would you seriously dress/prepare to look nice if you were headed to an isolated room where nobody else is around? it is for others, directly or indirectly. Just admit it.</p>
<p>equine... Please don't tell me that people have actually done that to you... That is pretty freaky... And if that happened at Bucknell I would be even more surprised as Bucknell seemed like it was in a quaint area (except for that prison, but whatever). My cousin might be going there next year and I hope to god that those things haven't happened to you at Bucknell because knowing her, she would get upset and start crying :(</p>
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the reality is: it is for SOMEBODY else. Whether you trick yourself into thinking that it's for you, or you are admittedly aware that it IS for others, you are dressing nice to either impress others directly, or securing your own self-consciousness at a level that assists your own lack of confidence among others (i.e. if you don't dress well enough, you may not feel good enough to "be yourself" in a crowd). Would you seriously dress/prepare to look nice if you were headed to an isolated room where nobody else is around? it is for others, directly or indirectly. Just admit it.
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<p>Absolutely.</p>