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<p>that seemed to be the question in your original post. yet when you received pretty consistent feedback that people here don’t think your mom should call, you basically said, it doesn’t matter what anyone here says, she’s going to call.</p>
<p>so i’m having trouble understanding what you are looking for here with this thread.</p>
<p>Opinions. And I got them. But that doesn’t change that I’ll be using my mom as a resource if necessary.</p>
<p>How about auditing the other section of the class if you need more help with the material? I thought that was an excellent suggestion. Forming a study group is another good step.</p>
<p>Having mommy-the-lawyer call the school is a lousy solution that will reflect poorly on you and on her. </p>
<p>But apparently we should all save our breath to cool our porridge, as the saying goes. I certainly hope that the dean doesn’t cave in to threats. (I also hope that the dean addresses the efficacy of this teaching model with the professor for the future.)</p>
<p>But I have seen, as a result of my H teaching as an adjunct at a less-than-stellar local Catholic college, that such schools admit many students who have no idea HOW to be a student. Even though failing a math class, they will simply copy answers from the back of the book for their homework, rather than actually attempting to work the problems. Given a review for a final in which PRECISELY the same problems that appear on the final, but with different numeric values, are covered, half of them still flunk the final and many of those complain that the material on the final “wasn’t taught” in class! The few students whose homework papers showed evidence of actually working the problems were–not surprisingly–the few students who actually passed the class with respectable grades.</p>
<p>I suggest that you try taking your learning into your own hands in this difficult situation. It will stand you in good stead later.</p>
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<p>SingDanceRunLife:
You got more than opinions. You got an overwhelming groundswell of feedback - and it was all unified. Do you realize how much you’re hurting yourself by using mom to deal with all your hard problems?</p>
<p>If you use her on this one, you’ll definitely use her on many more, because you won’t have any confidence you can handle life’s problems on your own. Is that really who you want to be?</p>
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<p>Seriously… why are you even asking for help if you’re just going to ignore what people tell you?</p>
<p>Look at her previous threads on CC. OP has a habit of asking for opinions and then arguing with them. Also of wanting to give up when things are hard. I would say whether or not mom helps with this particular problem is the least of her worries.</p>
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Wow - that’s unbelievable. If a parent ever contacted me in this regard for an employee of mine all it would do would be to possibly hurt the employee - not help them at all. If I thought the employee was part of the decision to have the parent call, similar to what the OP is having her mom do in the OP’s case, that employee would probably end up at the head of the list when there’s a need to reduce the workforce.</p>
<p>This illustrates the point of where does it stop - when does the parent decide it’s time to let the little one’s wings have some exercise and fly mostly on their own so they’re not stuck in the nest unable to fend for themselves forever? For most of us much of this happens when they head off to college or are otherwise out of HS. Apparently for some parents even post-college isn’t an adequate break point for them. I feel sorry for these ‘kids’ who will either never learn to grow up and become responsible for themselves or who’ll harbor some discontent with their meddling parents if it’s forced upon them.</p>
<p>What’s the worst that could happen if her mom calls the dean? I’m guessing the worst that could happen her idea of taking the class elsewhere, which might be okay’d if she asked, will be denied if her mom makes a scene. So she will still end up in the class with the teacher she doesn’t like. He dean/counselor will lose some respect for her, when he or she realizes she can’t hack this on her own and doesn’t trust the counselor to help her. And then the dean would be less likely to help her in the future. I’m pretty sure the OP understands this would be the downside and is okay with that.</p>
<p>Long term, will the OP learn to deal with stuff like this herself? Probably no reason to as long as mom is ready to step in. Though in the work world, I’ve had friends that put their new college grads on probation because their parents called…</p>
<p>I’m thinking the OP probably should proceed with the plan to have her mom intervene… It sounds like the end result is likely to be a valuable learning experience for her, and one that should not be delayed.</p>
<p>If ya know what I mean. ;)</p>