<p>I've heard that guys never want to be just friends with girls. So if a guy came up to me after a mini argument and said he's been trying and trying to be friends with me but that I obviously don't care does that mean he might have been...interested in me? He always made an extra effort to talk to me and he actually gave me some compliments which is rather out of character for him because he's a bit on the arrogant side....</p>
<p>This is the kind of stupid obvious question that I'm only comfortable asking strangers on the internet because it would be too embarrassing in real life.</p>
<p>He was probably interested in getting to know you better, and that could lead to either being friends or more. But unfortunately you two didn’t ever reach the stage of finding out.</p>
<p>Remember that “arrogant” is often an image that shy or anxious people project because they aren’t sure how to act. Maybe the guy is just trying to become better at making friends. Lots of guys have friends–just friends–that are girls. You can be just friends and if the guy seems to want more and you don’t, just be honest–“You know we’re just friends, right?”</p>
<p>The first statement you said is false. Not all guys just want to be with girls. Sometimes they just want a friendship…And it’s actually very obvious he did like you. Guys don’t just do things if they don’t have an intention. The argument just proves the fact that he felt you weren’t giving him the attention he gave you and you guys just didn’t see eye to eye.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone. This is really helpful. And I’ll admit that the first statement is blown out of proportion.</p>
<p>I feel bad about this argument and actually just how I’ve been treating him in general. It wasn’t a huge fight or anything but I most certainly was not being nice. How should I act the next time I see him? I’ll apologize obviously, but should I address his concern about me not wanting to be friends? I’m fine with being friends with him. I’m afraid I’ve been sending the wrong message because sometimes I don’t know how to act in social situations either…</p>
<p>And if anything I say seems to contradict itself let me know because I’m trying to describe a real life situation in rather vague terms.</p>
<p>Hey AnImpAffliction! I remember seeing your post on the other thread I intruded on. I’ve sort of moved on to my second question about how to tell him I DO want to be friends with him.</p>
<p>Oh, whoops! My bad! Hm, that’s a toughie. I’d just apologize, make up, and act like how you would act with a friend. Don’t seem flirty, I guess. Good luck!</p>
<p>From what you’ve said, I think he is definitely interested, or was at one time. He is in the friendzone. And people say all the time that you have to be friends first. Some people just stay there too long. Has happened to me twice unfortunately.</p>
<p>And I’m sorry to hear that. Hopefully it wasn’t from a girl like me. Argh. I’m just going to take senior year to start it over with him and see how it goes.</p>