It is okay to rant. It is also okay to point out how fortunate you are. From what I read, NY has some great state schools. You have parents that can help. Many don’t. You will likely have options for getting a degree. Many don’t.
I was watching a documentary last night about food insecurity and homelessness for college students. There is a large percentage of college students that don’t know where there next meal is coming from. Scary. I suspect many are the poor that you feel are so blessed. They interviewed students who were attending Berkeley who while they had great FA, they still need to relay on the food banks to be able to eat one meal a day. I cannot imagine the stress that they dealing with. We had one kid here at a IVY that could not afford a blanket for his bed. A generous CC parent sent him one.
Look at your state options. You might be surprise that they are better than you think. Recognize that there will be MANY high achievers at these school because like you they don’t have 250K in spare change.
Also spend some time reading the posts here. I am shocked at how many student have parents with six figure plus salaries yet will not contribute one dime. Your parents are trying to allocate what sounds like 20K for each kid. While not a lot for private schools it is a lot of cash. I am also amaze at the effort of posters here to help students like yourself find a path to a degree. There are some truly great people here.