<p>It might be too easy for me to say, but I wonder if getting that weight of anger/disappointment (that has been earned by your “dad”) off your heart would be a great thing. Don’t let his selfishness get on your sweet spirit! Just think, he has provided the exact opposite model of what you are meant to be. Keep being great!!</p>
<p>This threat reminds me of a wonderful professional, who took care of his mother and brothers because his father was not in their lives. He used to say his father was an alcoholic…and the bad trait makes him to study more and pursue a PHD degree. Never had he drunk alcohol to avoid the errors of his father. He became a great citizen and a great Dad, even though he married late in his life. I was wondering if the experience of not having a father to count on was the reason for him to marry late in life. However, he has two adorable children and is conscious about the wrongs a person can do in being alcoholic.</p>
<p>I agree, it is sad but sometimes a bad experience or that have parents that don’t fit to the normal standards can use the bad example as a guide to not repeat the story.</p>
<p>Bleh, my dad is convinced I secretly can’t stand him as much as he can’t stand my supposedly existent secret dislike of him. He’s absolutely certain that all I think about is drugs and sex LOL and often tries to use assorted lame “mind games” to trap me into revealing my dirty thoughts of the moment haha.</p>
<p><em>shakes head</em> It’s so pathetic. I think when my mom told me a few years ago after a squabble (my paternal grandma was here and she drove my mom up the wall…especially since my dad basically jumped out of his skin in fright at the sight of his mom. Pssshh…) that even after my second ultrasound, my dad was still hoping badly for a boy, he was listening and heard it all.</p>
<p>Sooo…on days like this and birthdays, he tries to be especially kind and fatherly in the traditional good ol’ American way by trying to take us to restaurants I detest (family dinner!), helping me with my homework (wow! You guys are doing linear equations already?!), and pesting me to go to a friend’s house so he can drive and be all dadly.</p>
<p>Although I suppose he does care in his own way lol. He does pay for basically everything I use each day, so it’s all good. 
Today I just have to be reeeeeaaally appreciative.</p>
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<p>Yep, I hope he cares…best wishes to you.</p>
<p>lol 10char</p>
<p>My father is great. He knows me better than I know myself. His love is limitless and powerful. He gets me through the darkest times of my life and loves me regardless of my mistakes. He is indescribable. This father I describe is not an earthly man-he is so much more than that.</p>
<p>I have never had a true father here on earth. My biological dad abandoned me at around 8 and my current stepdad is there, but not there. That is why I have tried not to put my faith in man because it has always led to dissapointment. But I have no sorrow in my heart because God has given me peace. He is my father, and in that alone…I am forever grateful.</p>
<p>While a “spiritual” Father is cool, it rips my gut to think you haven’t had a daddy snuggle with you, hold you when you are trembling, or just kickin’ it with the ole boy. I am so sorry you got ripped off. Also, I think it is important to have some father figure that is part of your life, who digs ya.</p>
<p>I rarely talk to my dad. When I was little, he would disappear for months at a time. No phone call or visit. He’s lied too many times. My father is the reason why I have so many trust issues with males.</p>
<p>I’m guessing Kelsey is a guy, then?</p>
<p>Do any of the other not-bitter-but-I-hate-daddy people regularly check the obitutaries to see if their father has died yet?</p>
<p>Or is that just me?</p>
<p>^Just you. But my mom always fantasizes about my father dying in a plane crash while he’s on the way to visit his girlfriend in South America.</p>
<p>Hmm, I thought so. I think your mother has me beat though. Way beat.
I dont want him dead per se, because dead people cannot endure sufferring. I want him in prison because I know he’d cry and boohoo like a btch and he’d also be BooBoo and Theo’s btch. </p>
<p>Another question, does anyone regularly look for their father on To Catch A Predator, because you just know that he will one day show up at a moderately-sized home in Georgia, and looking for 14 year-old Jimmy and/or Nancy to lure him in with promises of store bought confections and refreshments?</p>
<p>Or is that just me?</p>
<p>^LOL I loved that show. Unfortunately this one perverted counselor from my middle school never showed up on it. That disappointed me.</p>
<p>My dad never gets embarrassed. =)
I could go on, but I thought I would just state my favorite thing about him.</p>