Really need advice...please...

<p>Okay so it's been my dream to go to Harvard since I was a little girl. So far, I think I've met certain criteria that would make me competitive, but now I kind of have an issue...I'm pregnant. I found out a few days ago, I haven't told anyone except a couple close friends, and at this point I really don't know where to turn.</p>

<p>One of the biggest things I'm worried about is college. I've had big aspirations from a young age and don't want this to cause detriment to my dreams. I want to go to med school. My question is
a. can it be done, having a baby and still going to college?
b. will Harvard be understanding of the fact I can't continue to pursue my regular ECs during much of next year? (I know a girl who had a baby sister and wrote her essay about how she had to take care of her, and she got into Dartmouth.)</p>

<p>I'm 16, a current sophomore, and I have a 3.92 unweighted GPA and a 33 ACT/2150 SAT (as of now). I'm involved in varsity XC (will be captain next year if I can run) and tennis, as well as our school's science olympiad team. Any help at all, I appreciate more than you know.</p>

<p>No, they won’t understand that you can’t pursue your ECs further. You can still get into Harvard though, thanks to Ms. Roe…(:</p>

<p>If you can’t make responsible decisions now, how do you expect Harvard to believe you’ll be responsible in college?</p>

<p>Fail.</p>

<p>There have been women who have gone to the ivies who are single parents. The pregnancy will not be regarded as an excuse,however, for any lackings in your record. You will have to meet the marks DESPITE the situation. But I don’t think it will be counted against you if you can make it into a challenge, tough situation that you have handled well. Just don’t expect any quarter to be given to you because of it either.</p>

<p>Mrs. roe? What?</p>

<p>And so if I meet the marks, and continue my ECs and like have my family take care of my child I’ve still got a shot as good as anybody else’s? Plus, it’s not like I even have to mention it, right?</p>

<p>Yeah i forgot that one accident means a person is irresponsible for the rest of their life</p>

<p>and he means roe vs. wade supreme court case</p>

<p>Exactly. I know it’s easy to judge someone but this really doesn’t accurately reflect my overall character. I’m actually a hardworking, smart, diligent person. Everyone messes up at some point okay?</p>

<p>And oh, as in women’s rights?</p>

<p>As in Roe v. Wade. As in the right to privacy. As in the right to legally have an abortion. God, you people are slow lol…</p>

<p>That’s out of the question. I meant can I go WITH my child, not, “what can I do now?” I would never terminate an innocent life. I have morals.</p>

<p>I’m think you can put No Answer for the “Do you have children?” question… i’m not sure though</p>

<p>Does it ask that!?!</p>

<p>Harvard won’t have sympathy for you in the slightest, if your application suffers even a bit from this pregnancy, it’s on YOU don’t expect them to give special preference to someone because they can’t afford a condom. And at this point, your “child” is a bundle of cells, a quick scraping would do the truck. If abortion’s legal, what makes it immoral? Ohh, by the way, if I were to concede and say that it’s immoral, well then hey, if you want to get into Harvard, you’re going to have to make sacrifices, many peoe who get accepted will act “immorally”, and look where they end up in life: at the top of the food chain. Do what you’ve gotta do…</p>

<p>You’re a sick person. I can’t believe you’d even suggest something like that. And contrary to what you believe I can afford a condom; I’ve never not used one. Next time think before you go bashing someone you don’t know.</p>

<p>Is everything legal moral? Last time I checked that wasn’t the case.</p>

<p>*trick, people. Pardon my spelling(:</p>

<p>Worried your doing a good thing saving your child’s life, don’t worry about what other people say.</p>

<p>Applications are reviewed and sorted without regard to situations other than special flags such as legacy, development, celebrity, URM, athletes and adverse situations. Pregnancy alone isn’t going to cut it. If you fall into any of those special categories, your application will be viewed with others in the same pool. You have to be the best in the group without any quarter given to your situation. </p>

<p>You would not be the first parent who is a Harvard or any other college undergrad. You are not going to be penalized but your app has to be just as strong as anyone else’s. If you were track material for Harvard but can’t run during the critical year of assessment for ANY reason, that’s off the table. The same with any of your other ECs tht could have an impact. The reason why isn’t going to matter.</p>

<p>The reason very few teen moms do end up going to selective colleges is not because of the pregnancy and child per se, but the fact that the pregnancy and motherhood do take up time that would ordinarily be devoted to academics and activities that such colleges want to see in an applicant. So, yes, indirectly, being in your situation is detrimental to your chances.</p>

<p>Pregnancy isn’t considered an adverse situation?</p>

<p>I am sorry, but it has to be asked: is this a serious question?<br>
You want Harvard, weren’t savvy enough to be on birth control, but went ahead and had sex (at least once, despite “morals”) and pretty much everyone discussing unplanned pregnancy knows Roe doesn’t refer to fish eggs.
And, now you want to go to Harvard and leave your kid, what?, back home with Mom & Dad- that’s ethical? </p>

<p>I think you made your choices and should tend to the results. I mean that literally. If you are against abortion, take the moral high ground now: take care of your baby. Don’t say “everyone messes up” and then leave your child in your parents’ care so you can got to your “dream school.” Btw, baby daddy not going to be involved? </p>

<p>Jeez, I do believe in bc and don’t believe in having unprotected sex and am grateful for Jane Roe. Hate me if you wish. But, I don’t believe in leaving “surprise” babies behind. If Harvard is more important, look into adoption. And, don’t have more unprotected sex. </p>

<p>Of course, I feel for anyone in this situation. But you need to do what’s right, moral and ethical now. Good luck.</p>

<p>lookingforward, not at all! I plan on taking my baby with me. I would never leave him/her with my parents. I think killing someone is more significantly immoral than a condom apparently breaking/not being effective, okay?</p>