<p>no it’s not sercasting, what could you possibly be talking about?</p>
<p>335, I believe you are an 8th grade boy… really, I don’t think you are in a position to advise the OP whether she should be considering adoption or not. You have less idea than she does about what it takes emotionally, physically, and financially to raise a child. For many reasons, carrying on the family name is the last thing she should be thinking about right now (even less important that Harvard admissions chances).</p>
<p>OP, I don’t have much more to say at this point except that you need to have some serious conversations with your parents, your bf, and his parents. As someone who raised two kids starting in my late 20s, I personally think you need to keep the adoption option open for a while (right up until your delivery). You may be an awesome mom, but there is a time and place for everything in your life, and this is not a good time. To be a really awesome mom, you need to consider what is best for the baby, and being raised by two unmarried teenagers (even ones from strong families themselves) probably isn’t it. There are so many couples who can’t have children who are aching for a baby upon which they can shower time, love, and attention. You would be doing something wonderful for them AND for your baby if you keep an open mind and at least look into adoption.</p>
<p>is that supposed to be sercasting???</p>
<p>Well said, intparent. I can still remember how overwhelming a new baby was when I was 24, and I hope that worriedkid will keep her options open.
worriedkid, I also think it istime to have a talk with your parents tonight. I will check back tomorrow. In the meantime, I am going to call my birth mother to tell her how much I love her. Talking to you about this has made me so grateful again for what she did for me. </p>
<p>I hope that you have good talks with your parents and boyfriend tonight, and that he has talked to his parents.</p>
<p>intparent, u may not want me on this post but i have just as much of an opinion as you.
you may think of me as a child if you want but that would be very foolish of you.
i will continue posting becuase i have my own, honest and good opinion.</p>
<p>I’ll be back in 20 minutes to face another arguement with one of u.</p>
<p>335, if you would like to private message me to argue, go ahead. I think the original poster has enough on her mind without you having an argument with other posters on this thread.</p>
<p>idtparent, stop acting all defence full.
im not going to private message u to argue, your a waist of my time.
im going to share my opinion with worriedkid725, wether she likes it or not.
so just stop sending me these stupid messages</p>
<p>Frankly, we can’t predict how any parents’ reactions will evolve! We can only share our experience, that of people we know or things we’ve read, over time. </p>
<p>They may do all sorts of things for you. They may pay for college. They may subsidize your housing. No one knows, at this point. We don’t know your parents. We can only speculate or tell what WE might do or not do. </p>
<p>Btw, lots of high school girls are having sex. Period. Kinsey found it in the late 40’s and it was confirmed in the 70’s, and I found it in a survey I ran, eons ago. And, it is defininitely not just poor or undereducated girls or those from problem homes.</p>
<p>And, just because I have one D who is a talker, I can name plenty of girls in her elite, rigorous hs who had sex. So, all parents, not just Worried’s, should not assume.</p>
<p>intparent, you’re right in that adoption is potentially the best option. And I think, once I receive hopefully greater support from my parents and my bf’s (I have no idea if he’s even told them yet), we’ll probably be in more of a position to better weigh the options. At this moment, I’m leaning toward keeping the baby, only because I just can’t imagine having a baby and then literally signing it away. Hopefully in time I can be as realistic as possible about which is truly the best choice for me, my bf, and the baby, be that keeping it to raise ourselves, or adoption.</p>
<p>I am pro-choice and an adoptive parent. And, I respectfully request we recognize that OP does not feel abortion is an option.</p>
<p>I also suggest we simply ignore 335.</p>
<p>lookingforward, this is - unfortunately - true.</p>
<p>^^ “adoptive,” meaning you adopted your children?</p>
<p>You betcha. I have believed in adoption since I was quite young. They are now college age and wonderful. And, still a handful! My husband and I love them entirely.</p>
<p>lookingforward, i think its great that you adopted children and you care about them so much but u of course now that they might miss their own parents alot and their birth parents might miss them to.
thats exactly what might happen to worriedkid725, she might really have a hard time after she gives the baby away for adoption and might regret it forever</p>
<p>Does anyone else think 335 might be a ■■■■■? Freaking irrational.</p>
<p>lookingforward: awww, that’s great to hear.</p>
<p>addy: definitely is.</p>
<p>wow someone’s on their period, worriedkid725 come down, your the ■■■■■ for making such a stupid mistake in your life.
you can brag all you want about how your going to get in to harvard, but your not becuase clearly your not smart enough or deserve to, unlike the many other straight A virgin students who do.
i wish you the best of luck cus i clearly feel bad for u and your going to need it</p>
<p>@335426607 - </p>
<p>You’re telling her exactly what she should do. You’re an 8th grader. You’re giving her advice when you’ve never met her, never met her parents, never met her boyfriend, never been in her shoes.</p>
<p>Stop and let her make her own decision.</p>
<p>who the hell are u, mind your own beeswax.
you probably dont even no why im arguing</p>
<p>^I’ve read this whole thread, my dear. I don’t care why you’re arguing.</p>
<p>I work at a Teen hotline so I think I know a <em>little bit</em> more than you do about helping a person in a crisis. You can offer suggestions, but you’re straight up telling her what to do. Let her make her own decision.</p>