Really need advice...please...

<p>335 are you honestly telling others to mind their own beeswax when you’ve become THIS involved in the thread?</p>

<p>your right addymithas, im leaving this dump</p>

<p>335, i don’t know who you are, but you obviously think kidding around on a serious thread is hilarious. the op is facing an issue right now thats just not a laughing matter. your comments to her as well as to other posters on this thread are just downright rude.</p>

<p>335, peace!</p>

<p>im back, hey look people that are trying to **** me of again</p>

<p>would ya look at that?</p>

<p>i just dont understand, why dont u guys just listen to “looking forward” and ignore me instead of waisting worriedkid725’s time.</p>

<p>btw, liv4physics, i have a question.
are the other peoples comments rude??</p>

<p>You say you’re a devout Catholic, yet you and the father in question had pre-marital sex, so the assumption that he will help you raise a child because he is Catholic won’t help. If you came here for sympathy or positive advice, I can assure you you won’t get it from everyone.</p>

<p>335, some are, but your treating this like a joke is certainly not helpful to anyone.</p>

<p>worried: first, let me say I know this must be a really hard time for you. But I just wanted to chime in with a suggestion. I think you should look into women’s colleges such as Bryn Mawr, Mt. Holyoke, Smith, etc. They are all great schools academically, very prestigious, and I’m sure would be really accommodating to a young mother. It would be a great environment for your baby to be raised, around strong women. Plus, you would most likely get in and, with your stats, get merit money from some of them.</p>

<p>If she does to a women’s college, how will the OP receive the support she’d get from bf if she went to school w/him?</p>

<p>It is extraordinarily conceded and moronic to say something as close-minded as “abortion is immoral”. I will not get into an argument on CC about this, so I will steer this back to the topic at hand. </p>

<p>You never know what Harvard will take and will not take, there are exceptions to every case. If you have to take a break from your sports, then I suggest you start excelling at other things, and you will probably have to explain the break in your app somewhere.
With that said, carrying out a pregnancy and having a baby as a sophomore/junior in highschool probably does not bode well for Ivy applicants, whether or not Harvard discriminates against it, it may affect other aspects of your app, like your GPA, EC’s, overall focus and test scores, perception from teachers, etc. It really depends on who you are and what you do from here on out. </p>

<p>It is not impossible, so do your best in high school, do not let your activity in ECs and school work suffer, and def do not rely on this for pity from admissions(i.e., do not blame whatever bad things happen on the pregnancy, and I advise that you do not depend on this for your essay topics, unless you have something beyond “this makes me unique and gives me a different life experience” to say). Best thing to do would probably be to leave it out of your app but send an accompanying letter explaining any dips in EC involvement.</p>

<p>I am sorry this has happened to you, really, very sorry.</p>

<p>Best of luck</p>

<p>I haven’t read all of the posts, so apologies if somebody has already mentioned this idea. Assuming that you decide to keep the baby (and not give it up for adoption), you should probably just take off next year from school and start your junior year in Autumn 2012. Junior year is very intense and busy, so you need to take care of yourself and the baby. You can also reassess what you want to do in terms of university and see whether just going to U. Michigan might be your all around best option, as well as think in terms on what you want to do for a career. Good luck, Jackuk</p>

<p>There are some colleges that actually have gone out of their way to make provisions for single mothers. See: [Welcome</a> to the home of the Higher Education Alliance](<a href=“http://www.singleparentcollegeprograms.org/]Welcome”>http://www.singleparentcollegeprograms.org/)</p>

<p>I do not think that it is realistic for a teenage parent to expect to attend school full time in a highly competitive setting. It takes time to be a good parent. It’s tough enough for a parent who works a 40 hour week – there just aren’t enough hours in the day to accommodate the needs of a baby when the mom is trying to combine a full time school schedule with participation in outside EC’s. </p>

<p>If the baby’s grandparents are supportive, then I think it makes a lot more sense for the mom to continue to live at home with the baby, and attend a local community college or a 4-year college within commuting distance on a reduced schedule or part time basis – perhaps taking 3 classes a semester – and only increase the course load when the parent feels that she is able to take on more. The baby’s personality may play a part --some babies and children just end up needing more hands on attention than others.</p>

<p>I’m probably the only one to admit that there’s no way that worriedkid725 going to get into the ivy league now (no offence, just telling u the onhest to g-d truth)
im sure their are many other good universities that she could go to with her great admission like the one’s calmom talked about.</p>

<p>is there a way to block 335? he’s getting out of hand.</p>

<p>Someone could report a problem post, and ask the moderator to review all of his posts on this thread (the accumulation is what is getting obnoxious). Or we could just completely ignore them.</p>

<p>Dear Worried,</p>

<p>Please only listen to those who have your best interest in mind, those who have understanding and not to those who are hiding behind the anonymity that this site allows and those who chose to make innappropriate and cruel statements. </p>

<p>I understand that you are asking a legitimate question. I’m sorry I don’t know the correct answer, and I’m sure many of the responders do not. But first thing is first, please make sure you have the support you need during this very challenging time. I am a parent of two children. I am not here to judge. Please surround yourself with the right people who are going to help you and not people who will make things more difficult for you.</p>

<p>That being said. Please know that Harvard or any other highly competitive school such as Harvard is extremely–extremely–selective and very difficult to get into–even with perfect standardized scores, over a 4.0, tremedous extracurriculars, national awards, etc. But I am not here to squelch anyone’s dream. Dreams and high aspirations are what keep us motivated. </p>

<p>I have been to many college presentations where the adcom(admissions committee) has said “We have so many qualified applicants, we could have made two incoming classes.” But of course, they can only admit a set number.</p>

<p>Do the best you can in school, do the best you can for you, your family and your child, but please know that even though Harvard has been your dream from many years, it does not mean it is the one and only place that is the best match. Harvard is one school. And yes, many kids dream of attending Harvard. One student I know was an excellent candidate for Harvard–4.3 GPA, perfect SAT, national medals–did not get accepted. That student is now living the dream at another university. You can still fulfill your dream of going to med school. It may not be the traditional path or may not involve Harvard right away. Allow yourself to extend your dreams to include other schools and other paths. </p>

<p>Most importantly, right now, make sure you have the support of the right people–people who know you and care about you. I don’t visit this site often, but I just had to post to encourage you to make sure you have the support you need.</p>

<p>Good advice, infunitu88. Although I don’t think the OP has mentioned med school (that would be an even more difficult road!), she has mentioned the goal of grad school.</p>