Referrals/Detention

I recently had one of the most stressful weeks of my life. I had loads of hw, tests, club work, and sport practices. I was pretty angry and anxious one day and raised my voice at one of my teachers. I ended up getting written up and a day of detention. I have a high class rank and am taking all ap/honors classes. I was wondering how I can bounce back from this or if you guys know any tips. (I’m a sophomore btw)

Apologize to the teacher and move on.

Yes, take responsibility for your actions. It’s not the busy week but your decision that led to the confrontation and detention. Own that. Apologize sincerely and move forward in a positive way. Make it something you and the teacher can laugh about two years from now. Learn from the experience, try to honestly evaluate why it happened and if you need help assuring that it doesn’t happen again, in school or elsewhere. If you need help with it, seek it from school or elsewhere. Then a negative event can become an opportunity for growth, which as a high school sophomore is what is naturally supposed to be happening in your life. All of us former high school sophomores have things we wish we had done differently. Those that are successful are the ones who learned from these things. Good luck!

Apologies can sometimes make things worse by reminding the person of what you did. If you are sure you did something wrong, then show her that you are sorry by changing your behavior.

I don’t think an apology ever makes things worse. The teacher was annoyed enough to write the student up. Of course any apology must be heartfelt and this type of thing can’t happen again.

If you are feeling overwhelmed regularly consider tapering down your schedule a bit.

Teachers know that kids can sometimes overreact. And sophomores are infamous for it.

I’ve never, ever, thought anything less of a student who apologized, regardless of the offense. It’s a sign of maturity, of the realization that you made a mistake and crossed a line. I’m smart enough to remember an offense without a reminder, and mature enough to see it for what is it: a kid over reacting and nothing more.

Big picture-- there’s really nothing from which you need to “bounce back.” You messed up. You were punished. It’s over. Apologize and move on.