<p>Hello,</p>
<p>I was appointed on December 27th. Currently, I am in a pretty strong relationship, and was just wondering what the possibility of upholding it would be at USAFA. Either way, I plan on not letting it affect my decision, as I am set on accepting. But I need some input as to whether I should end the relationship or attempt it. Thanks.</p>
<p>I ended mine. I know a lot of people who kept theirs and then ended after about 18 months at the academy. I also know one of my friends in my class who just got engaged.</p>
<p>In the end its up to you. Either way, it's hard.</p>
<p>You have to want to make it work but is is possible. I really only have time to e-mail my boyfriend. He's at Embry Riddle, so I've only been able to see him on leave. Its hard on both of us and thats why they call it the 2% club. I can tell you though that the letters during Basic really helped.</p>
<p>Oh and I know someone in 2011 who was going home with a ring and a question. So like texas_falcon said its up to you.</p>
<p>hey, i'm in the same situation. it really depends on your relationship.. if it's strong enough and you have amazing trust/faith in that person, it can happen. like potterfan said, it's the 2% club for a reason, b/c it aint easy.. but then again if you think that the person would distract you from doin your best up there then it'd be better for you to end it. my gf and i already live 3 hrs away, but i think we're gonna try to make it work even though we'll live a few plane rides away. so it's really up to you and your relationship</p>
<p>That helps a lot. I think that my girlfriend and I will be able to get through the four years, obviously it won't be easy. But, what happens after we graduate? If I went directly into pilot training it would be much easier to work everything out considering it would still be within the U.S.; but I still have some doubts as to how everything would come together if I was stationed overseas immediately. Thanks again.</p>
<p>That's so far away it shouldn't be a factor. Besides, very few people go OCONUS for their first assignment.</p>
<p>I think in a sense you are right, it probably should not be a factor. But I think in a situation as intense as an academy, I would like to know if it is possible once I graduate. I really do not think that I want to put my girlfriend or myself through hell and then some at the academy, only to find out that our past efforts were futile and pointless. I guess my real question, more clearly, is: After I graduate, does the Air Force cater well to situations like mine (assuming everything worked out)? Does a possibility exist to continue the relationship after graduation? Thanks.</p>
<p>GalPal at Annapolis engaged to graduate of Annapolis.....both will be doing aviator training. She joins him after her graduation. That seems accomodation to me. I cannot answer how common this is.</p>
<p>don't let what COULD happen after the academy affect your decision about a girlfriend now. my reasoning is, if you can make it through the academy with someone and you get married to that person after, you'll be able to handle UPT and overseas assignments. won't the family get to come with you if you're married and get shipped of somewhere? the AF has the best reputation for family-togetherness (from what i've heard), and that's another small reason why i chose the AFA</p>
<p>Texas is rt about oversease, besides by the time you finish pilot training and ftu, you would be 2 years out of the acad. If you don't think she'll want a ring and committment after standing by you for 6 yrs, you are wrong. I dated h through college and at the pt he left for training we were engaged, got married as soon as he grad from undergrad flight training & I went with him to FTU. I can guarantee you he knew that if he didn't propose by the time he left for flt training I was not going to wait anymore!</p>
<p>if its serious, then you both must be willing to make sacrifices after graduations still. while you can get married and move together, there are still deployments, TDYs (business trip-"temporary duty"), and long/odd hours to deal with. times will test you, just like at usafa, but if its meant to be it will happen.</p>
<p>Great, thanks. That all helps and relieves me a little (barely though because I know it will be trying). But, I can't wait to see you all there in June!</p>
<p>My friend's D graduated in 05 from USAFA and immediately married a young man in pilot training from the glass of 04. In the 2+ years they have been married, they have lived together for less than 6 months. He was just assigned to her base now though, so they'll be co-habitating in an apartment they picked out together for the first time in their married life. That's a little on the rough side for many marriages, particularly among young, highly stressed people.</p>
<p>I had a long distance romance with my dh for a total of 2 years and it was really difficult. </p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>Bullet here (Pima's DH, and the guy who's been dragging her around the world for the past 20+ years from assignment to assignment). Excellent words above, and like PIMA said, we were one of the few to make it through 5+ years of a long ditance relationship (including our entire year long engagment). The key is you both have to be committed to each other through this trial. It take a lot of soul-searching on both your parts, btu if it's right, it's right. Love doesn't care how tough times are, you just get through them.</p>
<p>Ultimately, think of this as a test for your career. As many mentioned, the Academy is just the beginning. Your career, no matter what field you go into, will be marked be months spent away during deployments, funky schedules when you're home, and all the other drains on your time and family life that come with a military career. It may be your dream to be a part of this, but is your GF aware of the commitment she will make when she walk down the aisle on your wedding day? It takes a special person to be a military spouse, letting you follow your dream while they have to deal with all the times they are left behind to raise a family alone. (I just got lucky that Pima said "yes", she's a special person and the real reason behind my success in the AF).</p>
<p>But I get ahead of myself. Your 18-ish, about to begin an amazing jorney in life. If you love each other enough, it can happen (but boy, is it tough). Reason to break it off now, perhaps not. What's the worse that can happen if you try, you break up anyway? My humble advise, give it a shot and see what happens...</p>
<p>Just depends on the relationship, but I definitely think it can work, based on your level of maturity and commitment to one another. Don't forget, you get to go home for 3 weeks for Christmas, 10 days for spring break, 3 weeks for summer, and then 5 days for Thanksgiving, so it's not like you just don't get to see the peson for 4 years.</p>
<p>goal23 I say give it a shot. My bf hasnt been accepted yet but its getting pretty close and Im confident that thats where he'll be. We have been friends for about 2 years and that friendship grew into a wonderful relationship. I say go for it. Im with bullet. Whats the worst that could happen? I dont plan on leaving for one minute and when he comes home, I'll be here.</p>