<p>For those of you who want to choose a roommate via FB or USurf, remember that just because you have “common interests” doesn’t mean you’ll get along as roommates. It’s more important to find someone who keeps similar hours, has similar housekeeping standards, and similar standards of acceptable behavior (ie stumbling in drunk, bringing over boyfriends/girlfriends, etc). Just because you’re both majoring in the same thing or you both play the same sport doesn’t mean you’ll have any of these other factors in common, and those are the factors that make rooming situations work (or not).</p>
<p>From reading this thread you can see that the jury is still very much OUT on whether or not finding your own roommate on FB is a good thing. No wonder you guys are confused about the best way to go! I can understand the fear of students who think that “everyone” else is finding roommates on FB, and they’ll be left with the people no one else wanted if they let the college pair them up - but I don’t think that’s actually true. Many kids will consciously make the choice to let the college chose for them, so don’t feel like you have to find your own roommate if you’re not comfortable with that.</p>
<p>One problem with finding a roommate on FB or from home is the expectation level. You think that because you picked this person it should be good - and the good things about the roommate get taken for granted, but when there’s a problem, it feels very wrong. Whereas if you get paired up by the college you have no idea what to expect, and you are probably more open to balancing this person’s good and bad traits. </p>
<p>Also, remember the Brad Paisley song “I’m So Much Cooler Online.” People can represent themselves very differently online than they are in real life!</p>
<p>The college paired me with my roommate. We had SO much in common it was almost a problem - we did all the same activities, so we couldn’t get away from each other! But we worked it out and lived together happily for 3 years. My husband roomed with a casual friend from his high school, they also got along well. </p>
<p>My son was paired with his roommate by the college. They had ZERO in common (except their major), but they co-existed peacefully for a year and remain friendly, if not really friends.</p>
<p>My daughter (current hs senior) was going to let the college pick for her, but she met a bunch of kids from our area via FB and they went out to dinner as a group. She and one girl had been talking online, and when the group got together these two just “clicked.” They had the same reactions to what other kids were saying, etc. They are both outgoing, but neither of them are big partiers and both attend church regularly, and both will have long-distance boyfriends. They decided to room together, and I’m optimistic that it will work out. They are getting together again in a week or two, I told my daughter I’m glad they’re doing that because if either of them gets a feeling that this might not work, they still have time to bail out!</p>