Requesting Roommates: Successes and Failures?

<p>I value objectivity and the rational. This makes me emotionally detached. They all go hand in hand.</p>

<p>Wow you guys don’t sound very fun to be around anyway.</p>

<p>I’m an introvert and an extrovert, it just depends on my moods. Sometimes I desperately need my alone time and I will snap at everyone if I can’t be alone for a bit, even if it’s just driving around in the car or taking a bath or something. But when I’m up to it I love hanging out at a party or in a big group of friends or something. I’m going to be living in an on-campus apartment in the fall - I’m a third year transfer - and I am pretty nervous about having to share the apartment with people (but i need my own room). I’m an only child and I’ve never really had to live with people. But at the same time I’m excited :)</p>

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Off topic: weirdly enough, (in my little, little, little experience) it seems like the professional workplace has the most emotionally-fueled drama. I have an internship for a small Wall St. company. The people in the office are constantly gossiping, bickering, stabbing each other in the back in order to further themselves – and then pretend to be cool with everyone to their face. It’s nuts. </p>

<p>It seems every job I’ve held is like this. Maybe I just keep choosing to work for psychotic people…</p>

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<p>I’m the EXACT same way. I can’t be around people for too long in some moods, but in others, I hate being alone. I think it’s because in high school, I didn’t have amazing friends so I got used to being home with my family/by myself a lot, and only hung out with people every once in awhile.</p>

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<p>Never was, am not, and will never be. That’s fine by me.</p>

<p>Still mastering the art of sarcasm.</p>

<p>did any of you uroomsurf.com? </p>

<p>if you did were you able to get along with your roomate?<br>
I’m just curious, i’m not going to use it.</p>

<p>im just going to do the whole random roommate thing, unless someone wants me to be their roommate at orientation , i hate the whole sharing rooms thing/ i shared a room with my brother most of my life up until earlier this year /</p>

<p>but i can go another year with it</p>

<p>My roommate was semi-random freshman year. We answered maybe three basic questions about smoking, sleep habits, etc. on our form and then ResLife basically placed roommates randomly. I did have a little more restriction than others, though, because my 16 student first-year-course was residential so I knew I’d be placed with someone else from the class. (Everyone has to take a first-year-course but they aren’t all residential.)</p>

<p>It actually worked out really well. We set up the ground rule “don’t do stupid **** in my room” within the first day or two and then I knew we’d get along. XD We’re actually still living together (we’re juniors now) and plan to live together next year as well. We just got really lucky, though. I don’t know that either of us would have gotten along so well with anyone else. Crazy that we were basically placed randomly.</p>

<p>Collegebound010, I found my potential roommate on uroomsurf and we got along pretty well online, hopefully in person as well.</p>

<p>I found my roommate on Uroom. The main three things I was concerned about was 1) sleeping habits, 2) academic/social life (her priorities), and 3) temperament. We meshed really well online and we have some of the same interests… but most importantly, we both share the same general sleeping habits (I hope). We met up at a Starbucks before we officially decided to fill out the forms and be roommates and we both get along well in person, too!</p>

<p>hmm isn’t it interesting that there are barely any guys in here ?</p>

<p>And in spite of all of the girls’ effort, the guys will get along better anyway.</p>

<p>incoming new freshmen
I am badly looking for roommates for triple dormroom @Esther Lloyed Jones Hall.</p>

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<p>i’ve read most of this thread and a lot of threads like it and one thing really bothers me. the argument about “needing to grow and learning to live with other people” really doesn’t stand up. i’m going to do enough growing up being hundreds of miles away from home and being away from my sisters and parents for the first time in my life. i’ll have enough to worry about with all the work and all the academic challenges that come with being a college freshman. so if rooming with a high school friend, especially a close one, means worrying about one less thing then it’s worth it. there’s no need to put undue stress on myself and risk getting stuck with a freak or jerk , especially if that means leaving my old friend behind. because you “learning to live with different people” people are basically saying loyalty and friendship mean nothing.</p>

<p>I don’t think that’s what was meant by “learning to live with other people.” I think what was meant was learning to share a room - with a friend or anyone else. Most kids today have their own rooms, and sharing a room an adjustment no matter who you room with.</p>

<p>I understand the idea of fearing that you’ll get stuck with a “freak or jerk.” But I think some earlier points about the downside of rooming with a close friend are also valid - the concept of expectations especially. If one of you expects that you are going to be best friends, and the other just wants someone compatible to room with and to have a separate group of friends, there’s going to be hard feelings. If two girls have been friends in hs, and one of them figures that borrowing her friend’s/roomate’s clothes is “no big deal” because they’ve loaned each other clothes in the past, but the other would like to be asked first and have the option to say no, that’s gonna be a problem. </p>

<p>There’s no rule that applies to every case - it really depends on the people involved. Just be sure that if you room with a friend you go into it with similar expectations.</p>

<p>I adored my roommate first year, who I found on FB, we got along as roommates perfectly. BUT, important: no matter what your social/academic interests are, you need to be compatible as ROOMMATES first. Bed times, study times, room temperatures, feelings about drugs/alcohol/men in the room, do you snore/listen to music without headphones/watch tv all the time, etc. I made the mistake my second year of rooming with someone who’s academic interests are similar to mine, and we had one significant social interest in common, and it was a DISASTER.</p>

<p>I found two of my roommates (one came later in the year) through facebook. One of them was decent enough as a roommate, and the other turned out to be probably one of the weirdest people I’ve ever met. It started out okay, but then it got strange really fast–he kept on asking about my sexual habits/experiences/whatever. Once we moved in, I found out that he pretty much has zero social skills whatsoever, talks to himself on a regular basis(in a very creepy way), and stomps his feet everywhere. He still tried to invade my personal space, so I had to give him a “doorslam” and started completely ignoring him. I could go on, but I think that’s enough for this topic–be very careful about who you pick out to be roommates, and try to meet beforehand BEFORE you agree to room together. Otherwise, you might get stuck with some idiot like I did.</p>

<p>I can’t wait to be free of my roommate - he’s just nuts. The housing department = total fail.</p>