OK I neeeed help. I have this roommate who is a very type-A person and made a lot of rules when entering college. She had a bunch of expectations. These included no one in the room past 10:30 on weeknights, no sleepovers (we both have bfs) on weeknights, communicate when in the room with guest, and communicate when not going to be in the room for a weekend. My last roommate and I were very easy going, she’d have her BF sleep over once a week, usually on Thursday and I did not mind. I barely have my boyfriend sleep over. But at least twice I’ve texted her on a Monday night asking her if he can sleep over and she will be asleep (usually goes to bed around 10). I honestly give her the room every weekend and don’t really ask much of her. So he slept over when she didn’t answer and gets so pissed and calls me disrespectful and all these other things. Also in the past has told me she does not associate with people like me. We made a set of rules and technically I did break them which is understandable, but she talks very down to me. She has reported me to housing in the past for smelling like weed when I come into the room but I barely smoke and it is the people around me. My boyfriend and I are rarely in the room and she gets it to herself pretty much every night. I feel as if though it is unfair because I dont have one thing in favor for me. She goes to bed so early that when I come back from club soccer she will be asleep and I cant do what I want. She also wakes up super early.I believe she should be the one to move out because she is always complaining about how I am, but has put it on me. What should be done? and am I to blame as in being a bad roommate?
Reporting you to the RA for your odor seems a bit much… If you were hanging out with your roommate and mutual friends at 10:30 pm it seems like this could go on longer but otherwise the rules seem pretty decent. Clearly you don’t care much for each other.
Best thing to do is talk to the RA and if that doesn’t work, talk to someone in your schools housing office.