<p>This issue has been bugging me for a while now, and I need some advice...
My roommate is a VERY light sleeper, and on top of being a light sleeper, she's got tinnitus (which is constant ringing in the ears, for those who don't know) which causes her to have significant trouble sleeping at night. I don't know what it's like to have tinnitus, but from what I've heard, it's pretty troubling--she tells me that in addition to being someone who can't sleep well at night to begin with (before the tinnitus started, it would take her an hour to fall asleep at night), she has "intermittent sleep" at night. Apparently, she doesn't ever fall into "deep" sleep, and wakes up every hour, like a mom with a newborn baby.</p>
<p>I try to be as accommodating as possible (I'm in the same apartment room with her), because I know she needs to get to bed to try to start sleeping at around 10 PM every night. Most nights, I try to get to bed around 11 or midnight, but when I'm studying out in the living room and go into our room to get ready for bed, etc, the doors opening/closing, me turning the lights on/off keep her up at night, at least until I go to bed. She is also super picky about lighting--she wants ALL main lights out in the room when she goes to bed-at 10 PM! I'd like to have a bedside light, or smaller light on so I can see when I come back into the room, but so far, the only compromise we can come up with is keeping the closet light on. Even then, she can't sleep with that light on. I've suggested that she use an eye mask, but she brushed off my idea. I feel bad for her having so much trouble sleeping and everything, but I can only do so much to accommodate to her needs!</p>
<p>I wouldn't feel quite <em>this</em> guilty about the whole situation, but I know that I contribute to her sleeping troubles, because I grind my teeth at night...which doesn't help this whole sleeping thing.
I guess I have this "savior" complex, and want to "fix" her sleeping problem, because when I sleep, I feel like there's someone watching me the whole night--she doesn't ever SLEEP at night! It's a pressure for me to know that she doesn't sleep...</p>
<p>Is there anything I can work out with my roommate to help her sleep better at night? OR anything I can do to feel less guilty for sleeping at a half-normal time and thinking that I'm constantly "disturbing" her when I go to bed at a later time than she does?
(And on top of her thing with tinnitus, she's got OCD.... which is a whole new can of worms....)</p>