<p>My roomie and I have been great friends for 4 years. We are totally ourselves around each other. I sense a little tension between us, and I think she is two faced. I am in a major that requires more effort than hers;therefore, I have to study harder and have more homework. I usually turn on my desk lights and put on my headphones and watch netflix while I get all of my work done on my side of the room. The other night, she got all huffy and acted like she was going to bed;however, she ended up making a ton of noise by cleaning our her closet and desk at 11pm...I got up and just went to bed and just let it all go the next morning and just tried to have a good day. I know its around her monthly time, and I dont think thats a legit excuse to act all snobby and close doors hard and be bitchy with me. About being two faced, we have a friend that just thinks she is above everyone and I just cant take it at times, so I keep my distance. However, she agrees with what I say; yet, days later she is kissing her ass. How do I deal with this. I dont like two faced people and I dont think she has the guts to stand up to me because she knows I will just ignore her and keep it moving. What do I do inthis tricky situation? Do I just wait for her monthly bitchy time to pass and let it go or do I just not be her roommate next year? Im graduating that next semester anyway and moving to New York. Thanks:) </p>
<p>Sounds like you should just wait a couple days and it’ll be all better.</p>
<p>If it’s really bothering you, ask her to be a bit quieter so you can study. You can’t expect her to stop being noisy if you don’t tell her it’s a problem.</p>
<p>I’m not sure why you’re asking about rooming with her next year or not… if you’re moving away anyways, it doesn’t sound like you could room together anyways? So I’m not sure how that plays into all this.</p>
<p>If you’re good friends with her for a while, you should just be able to ask her about it. Wait a couple days until she’s in a better mood, and just talk to her about it. You may be misinterpreting things, she may have just been in a bad mood, you may be doing something that bothers her that you’re not aware of. The only way to know is to just ask if anything is going on. Don’t be accusatory, just ask if anything’s going on because you felt like she was bothered by something you did.</p>
<p>About the “two faced” thing, well, everyone’s a little like that. Just because she feels like this friend could be a little stuck up, doesn’t mean she’s going to be a ■■■■■ to her about it. And just because she’s nice to her, doesn’t mean she’s kissing up to her. It could be that she understands where you’re coming from about this friend, but doesn’t necessarily agree wholeheartedly or thinks it’s only sometimes or doesn’t think it’s worth confronting her about it (which it probably isn’t). Maybe she doesn’t think it’s worth picking a fight with you (perhaps, she thinks you feel really strongly about it and wouldn’t be open to a differing opinion) by disagreeing with you. It doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have a spine; it could just mean that she’s picking her battles.</p>
<p>My point is that every story has two sides and you don’t necessarily know what’s going through her mind or how she feels. Before you jump to a snap judgement about her, talk to her about it, and ask if anything’s going on. I wouldn’t blow it up into a whole big thing, but she’s your friend. You’re allowed to talk to her.</p>