Genuinely don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not, I just want to be a good roommate. I’m a rising junior and have spent two years living in the dorms on campus, and both years my relationship with my (different) roommates has been difficult. I know I’m not blameless, but I always tried my best to be considerate. However, it makes it hard for me to know who is right in this situation, and I’m just trying to find a compromise.
I’m rooming with a friend for part of the summer, and we’ve just spent two nights in the same room. Apparently we’re not very compatible so I’m hoping things go well for now on, but I know it will require a lot of compromise. First thing was when I asked if I could open the window for some air, and she said she’d prefer I didn’t. Fair enough, I can deal with a bit of heat. But one thing I expect will be a consistent problem is that she wants the blinds open during the night so that the sunlight floods in early. I am pretty light sensitive, have even been told so by my optometrist, so even the smallest bit of light wakes me up. I’ve had problems waking up to minimal light with the blinds closed, let alone open. But I know it’s all about compromise, so I said I’d wear my eye mask and it would be fine.
The first night was ok, the eye mask stayed on and I slept pretty well. But last night, the mask slipped and I woke up with the sunlight at 6 in the morning after about 4 hours of sleep. I fiddled with the blinds for just a second, and my roommate was annoyed and told me to leave them open. I actually wasn’t closing them, I don’t remember what I was doing but I knew she wanted them open so they were gonna stay open. Either way, I am sorry for messing with them after we agreed. But then I put the eye mask on and it took me over an hour to get to sleep again. Sunlight really just wakes me up and makes it very hard to be sleepy again, even though I objectively didn’t sleep long enough.
I asked her if there was any way she could compromise by leaving the blinds closed on Saturday and Sunday so I can catch up on sleep in the morning. She seemed annoyed and talked about how I said I could use the mask, and we’re already compromising in other ways, like how she left the lights on for me when she went to bed last night. I told her I didn’t even realize she was doing that for me, and it would be perfectly fine if she turned them off whenever she went to bed. She also cited how I’m using her plates and pots in the kitchen, but she moved in before me and I asked her if she wanted me to get anything. If it bothered her, I would buy my own plates.
She agreed to leave the blinds closed in the mornings on the weekend, but doesn’t seem happy about it, saying she’ll just have to go to the living room. I don’t mean to be a bother, but I kind of feel like sleep is more important than a preference for sunlight?