So I moved into this townhouse this January17 with a roommate(whos been there since August 16)that I was matched with and only a little over a month in and there’s problems.
she had a friend over who smoked making the whole house stink and left the mess there (I was away for the weekend).
She leaves her clothes downstairs and everywhere. (dirty undies, and jeans, and )
She has been washing for 3 weeks meaning, there is always something INSIDE the washer or dryer everyday.
She threatened me if I touch her "shit there will be problems"
she leaves unhygienic stuff on my table. like a USED pad
SO I contacted management in the office, and they gave her a few days to clean, and she didn’t so they gave her a citation., and now she is not allowed to renew.
I have two options.
A Either live with her until the remaining of the lease July 31. Which is 5 months
or
B They will transfer me to another townhouse with a new roommate, but I won’t have my own bathroom anymore which sucks.
Lets say I pick A. stay in this townhome and suck it up for the next 5 months and have my own bathroom.
I want to know what do I need to do to survive.
The big problem is her mess.
1.Do you think it is wrong if I need to wash and she leaves them in the dryer that I take it out so I can wash?
2. That I put all her stuff she leaves downstairs and put it upstairs outside her door?(backpacks of clothes) and other stuff.
Like help me out in telling me if its right to move her stuff to be able to clean, like wash my clothes or mop downstairs.
A little to add shes 18 and I am 21 we are both new to living without our parents.
Regarding the clothes in the wash, if she is in the unit I’d tell her you want to use it and to please move her stuff. If she is not there, text her that you want to use the washer or drier, and tell her she has 15 minutes to mover her stuff or you will do it.
Regarding her stuff, get a big black garbage bag. Pick up the stuff in common areas on the floor or furniture & put it in the bag. Including gross stuff she leaves around. Put it in a corner, and just keep filling it as she leaves stuff around.
Smoking in the unit (her or friends), I’d report that.
@3scoutsmom hey i know the thing is even if i do move to another room, i still have to wait because its a process, I feel like knowing she will end up leaving anyways has me on good hopes.
@intparent thankyou so much I will do that this weekend
Maybe it is too late, but I’d try to stay civil
with her even when she isn’t. I’d continue to ask politely for what you want, and not yell or be snarky. I’d say please when I ask for something and thanks when she does what you’ve asked.
@intparent you know you are right, I should look at it in the positive way. I am already blessed she can’t renew. Also, she’s getting her citation until monday so she doesn’t even know that part yet. I did move her stuff to clean and I took videos just incase. However, I guess for now I should just sweep around it, and think about how happy I will be when she leaves.
Yes it is too late to stay civil, but not from my part, I guess the only problem would be the washer, something I do NEED to use. I guess I should just wait for after Monday when they speak to her and her mom. Her mom already knew about the warning and told her to clean up her act, and she didn’t so idk what is going to happen.
So you are writing this BEFORE she knows she can’t renew?
If she was a pain before it’ll be hell afterwards. Be ready for retribution.
" Yes it is too late to stay civil, but not from my part,"
Kidding me right? You just got her thrown out. How civil was that action? But not thrown out nearly soon enough for you.
Move. Five months with a roommate from hell is a LONG time believe me.
Or maybe your personal bathroom is more important to you.
lol I meant Civil in words. like I am not going to downgrade myself to her level, I may seem like a “bit**” but to be honest, all i did was tell management they gave her a warning, and then they themselves checked on friday and took action.
Basically it started out as a problem with me, but now its a management problem because of contract violations, and they took pictures themselves as well. They knew the consequences, and didn’t do anything about it. I guess you can call me a snitch, but thats about it .
I have never talked to her wrong, or threatened her, or yelled at her, all i say is please and thank you.
Plus last day of school is May 2. So honestly I would only have to suck it up for 2 months cause I will go back home first part of summer.
I also like spending time in the library/at school, like to study or do hw. Spend as little time in the townhouse would be ok with me.
I am not someone to wish bad on someone, I don’t want to make her live hell the remaining months either, like even though I am the “snitch” I am not a bad person.
Perhaps the bluff and bluster roomie puts forth is that which she can get away with, is purely all offensive, and under watchful eyes with penal powers she will step closer to being civil and considerate. One does not know until it all begins to play itself out.
But… be prepared for things to go terribly, terribly wrong. I wouldn’t keep my food there, or my toothbrush anywhere she could get to it.
What do you mean by all of this? “Basically it started out as a problem with me, but now its a management problem because of contract violations, and they took pictures themselves as well. They knew the consequences, and didn’t do anything about it. I guess you can call me a snitch, but thats about it .”
Sounds as if you are suggesting management had prior knowledge of her behaviors and placed you with this person anyway, aware of the stance and actions she takes with those with whom she is placed. Is that the case?
Management is doing their job great if anything, not choosing sides but following the contract.
After I let management know they told me that it was a violation in the contract and they will look into it (which they did) and take appropriate actions (which they did).
I will update on what happens once she finds out about her citatons.
I have a lock to my room and my bathroom inside it as well. I guess food will be the only issue that I didn’t think about.