There are 3 of us and we are living together in a student apartment. We all had good term with each other from the beginning. There is one thing that sometimes we are busy, we do not wash our dishes for a couple days. I am the only who clean the kitchen, stove, and other things in the common area. I consider myself more clean and tidier than my other roommate but I am fine with her lifestyle. One day she texted us in our group chat asking us to be more tidy and clean things more frequently because it was stressing her out. Ever since then we clean after ourselves every single time we eat and no more dirty dishes in the sink. However, she always has her dirty dishes remained for days or weeks. Last Thursday, she put around 400 paper cups with water in it in front of our rooms and said it was a prank but she never cleaned the mess. We were still fine until the day before it. I cleaned part of it but I didnt have enough time for that since it was final week. After that, she unfollowed me on instagram and blocked me on snapchat. She also took away the trashcan she bought (we provided other stuffs too like microwave, stove, clothes, soaps and she only has trashcan) I texted her on Sunday asking her if she can clean the cups in front of my room nicely and she responded me in a rude way saying she has paper to do and she does not want to keep the cups and I can throw them away whenever. I then cleaned the mess. Tuesday after that I walked out of my room seeing her out in the kitchen. She did not look at me and walked into her bed room. My other roommate is coming home this summer and the girl I am having problem with is bringing another girl to stay for weeks with her. Her lease is ending this July. I feel sad because I think I lost a friend and the atmosphere is so heavy right now. What should I do? Sorry guys for writing too long but I am being very stressed.
Not sure you can do much. How soon is your lease up, and when can you get out of living with her?
I’m the same way compared to my housemates, and I got tired of playing games with them. If she doesn’t clean her dishes, then don’t go out of your way to clean yours; if mess stresses her out, she needs to practice what she’s preaching. Don’t clean any messes she makes, and if she takes away her trashcan, just get your own. It’s sad that this had to destroy your friendship, but part of living together is that your lifestyle can’t be all about you; there has to be some compromise. If she’s choosing to be messy (and not only messy but demanding that you clean up her messes), then she isn’t a friend worth having. If your relationship can be recovered after you are no longer living with her, great, but you have no reason to feel guilty for how things are going right now.