<p>I'm a college student and I live in an off campus student apartment with three other girls. They are upset because I like to spend time in my room. I am taking 18 hours this semester, I'm in the college band, and I am very involved in a social club. My days are usually over around nine and when I get back to the apartment I just like to work on homework, study, and go to bed. My roommates are all seniors and all around the age of 25. I am 19. I wouldn't expect for people this old to care so much about something like this. Two of my roommates are best friends and they have their own group of friends and I have mine. We don't have much in common and we have a huge age difference. I am never rude to them and I talk to the one whose bedroom is next to mine on a daily basis. We're not close friends but I thought we were getting along. They say I never come out of my room, but I'm never really there because of my busy schedule. Is it so wrong to want some alone time after a long day? It seems to really bother them for some reason. When I was looking for an apartment they said that they wanted a quiet roommate, and that they had busy schedules and would be sleeping most of the time that they were at the apartment. That sounded similar to my situation so I decided to move in with them. They have been nothing like they said they would be.</p>
<p>6 years isn’t a “huge” age difference.
Just try and be more social with them. Lunch or dinner with them a couple of nights per week shouldn’t be too hard to work out. Or actually interacting with them before shutting yourself in your room.</p>
<p>i interact with them. it’s not like i just come in and go straight to my room. i always say hi and ask how their days went…thanks for the advice. i’ve never shared an apartment before so i didn’t know we had to hang out. i thought you just help keep clean and be polite and that was it.</p>
<p>Well you live with them and you should at least try bonding things at first. If you realize you dont vibe/hate them, then don’t fake the funk… Be polite and all that but you don’t need to be BFFs.</p>
<p>I have never been in your situation but I have some friends that have. They said to try and make dinner for everyone once in a while or maybe on a weekend have a movie night. Give them 2 hours of your time each week that way they can’t say that you never try to hang out. Are they the same major as you?</p>
<p>ladeeda6- we have lived together for a while. i guess we “fake the funk” too much. i wouldn’t even know that they had a problem with me if i hadn’t overheard them talking the other day. i’m going to try to meet with all of them so we can really talk.
Charlie765- i guess i could try that. it’s just kind of hard to make time. they all have busy schedules too. no, they are not the same major as me.</p>
<p>i think i’m better off living alone.</p>
<p>your better off rooming with people of your same major just because you ll have about the same work load they ll understand more of where your coming from. best of luck :)</p>
<p>My roommate also does not let me sleep, but if it makes you feel any better, at least your roommate does bring pot into your room, sleep all day and stay awake all night, talk on his or her phone all night, keep the lights on all night, and illegally sleep with a member of the opposite sex in his or her tiny bed, all while I try to sleep. I also doubt that your roommate keeps plastic baggies scattered around the room with napkins in them (that might have something to do with the pot incident) and spray his or her air freshener that smells like a rotting dead possum at a landfill around the room.</p>
<p>Thanks. That makes sense :)</p>
<p>kennyObrien sorry about your bad luck with your roommate. i hope things get better for you :)</p>