<p>"kids that got depressing admission results have to work through it."</p>
<p>after getting rejected by 6 schools in 20 minutes( the beauty of online notification) I decided to be productive in working out my frustrations. I decided to re-landscape my family's property. By the time I was done, I had worked through all of my emotions and had a beautifully landscaped, terraced garden to boot. Its not what all people would do... but eh, I'm not all people :D (which was the conclusion I arrived at) :D :D :D</p>
<p>There are forums like that, but this doesn't happen to be one of them. We value courtesy and respect to all members - we get experienced people and complete newbies, and we fully expect that everyone will be treated respectfully and without condescension.</p>
<p>For many people, getting up the nerve to start posting is tough - they may lurk for days or weeks, hoping to find answers to their questions. We can help these potential participants join the community by maintaining an environment where they know they will be welcomed and can post even a naive question without fear of being mocked.</p>
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<p>Agreed - when a discussion degenerates, it's rarely due to a single participant; rather, one person starts something, someone else replies in kind, & it's downhill from there. First rule of forums: don't feed the trolls.</p>
<p>CC isn't perfect, but we are committed to keeping it the best college discussion forum on the web. We know from years of feedback that we have helped thousands of families sort through the complexity of the college process, and special thanks are due to our members who make this such a helpful and welcoming place to visit.</p>
<p>I posted this in another thread, but thought it also applied here:</p>
<p>I am sure I ruffled feathers. I speak my mind. I try not to attack. I am not a coodler. I don't necessarily say what everyone here seems to want to hear. I speak from a different persepective. I will contiinue to say my piece. I often disagree with the majority of posters here. Oh well. I can take the flack. Sorry someone feels the need to go. In my opinion, it is kind of unfair to be so criptic. We posters are blamed, but in such a generic way, we are scrambling around. If I said something, please PM me. I am more then willing to defend myself or apologize.</p>
<p>I don't think there's a problem with honest feedback. Nevertheless,
it's important to recognize that this time of year is really crazy. Absolutely outstanding students are denied admission, sometimes inexplicably. Parents are caught between encouraging their children to aim high, and risking rejection and disappointment. Hence, sensitivity to the situation others find themselves in really important. As the Mrs sometimes reminds me, people may not be looking for solutions or explanations - they may just want sympathy/empathy.</p>
<p>There is plenty of room for sympathy/empathy, but it should not a substitute for respect. It isn't the same thing, but some are unable to grasp the difference.</p>
<p>I am flumoxed and baffled...In the last few days, threads that I'd been following have suddenly disappeared, long-time posters are bidding fairwell....
I am ...like the little old grandfather in the movie, "Moonstruck", who -- bewildered at his granddaughter having two fiancees -- can only shake his head and say "I'm confused..."</p>