<p>I am a freshman at college ave on the new brunswick campus. I thought it was social, and lively (and city like), which is why I wanted to stay there.</p>
<p>There are already cliques in my building in general. There's only some who want to talk but everyone else sticks to their highschool buddies or whatever.</p>
<p>My roommate WILL NOT get off the phone with her boyfriend. EVERY MINUTE she's on the phone. I'm not exaggerating. During our orientation, she was on the phone with him. Right now she is. She was at 1 in the morning too. I don't say anything though and I am really nice to her. I offer her my water, food, etc. I got her food from the dining hall this morning. It seems like she doesn't even want to get to know me.</p>
<p>I just got really sad last night and wondered if I made a huge mistake. I didn't really want to go to Rutgers in the first place, my mom forced me. (She's paying) I was really upset but I eventually got really excited about it and now I'm wondering if I should of fought harder to go somewhere else. I'm wondering if switching campuses will do anything. </p>
<p>I'm hoping I meet some people in my classes. I might go out with one of my highschool friends tonight. If we don't do anything, I don't know what I'm going to do. I don't know if I should just go by frat row by myself. Everyone's like paired up or has their own little group but me. </p>
<p>I'm just really really down and I needed to vent. I wanted to post this last night but I wanted to see how things were today. I know it's only been a couple of days but it doesn't seem so good so far. =(</p>
<p>Hey fadetoblack, I am a freshman at a state university where many of the students have friends from high school there and I understand what your going through, as I too went through it my first night there. My advice to you is to simply try to talk to everyone you see and it will eventually work out. I made friends with my friends by simply seeing that the door was open to their room (3 of them share a forced triple) and asking if I could join them in whatever they were doing. If making yourself available isn't as easy for you, or people simply aren't as friendly at Rutgers then it is my suggestion that you join clubs (I joined rugby and I have become friendly enough with everyone on the team that I can talk to any of them, and I'm sure could hang out with them if I gave them a call)</p>
<p>I go to rutgers too.. and Im an out of state student, which is even worse. NONE of my friends, or people I know go to this school!! </p>
<p>I totally agree with people hanging out with their highschool friends and having cliques.. And just like you, I'm kinda the only one without my clique to hang out with.</p>
<p>But I'm not really anxious tho.. Rutgers is a HUGE school, (which is one of the reasons why I chose it) and there has got to be SOMEONE out there who is the perfect friend for you. And there are so many opportunities ahead of us to meet those people, not just tonight at the orientation. Just be patient ^^ these few days wont decide how you will spend the rest of the school year.</p>
<p>Unless you want to be REALLY popular, you don't have to worry about anything :) just relax ^^!</p>
<p>I go to Rutgers as well and am now a sophomore. I also live on College Ave [last year, I was placed on Douglass] and I must say, there's certainly a certain personality type to have to be on College Ave. </p>
<p>Last year, I went through a similar situation. I actually spent my frist semester truly upset at my decision to come here. But eventually, my roommate and I started having REAL convos (not lame small talk) and just having that one extra friend made me much more confident. </p>
<p>Now, I do have a select group of people to hang out with. I'm not the girl-talk-chit-chat type of gal, but I eventually found more people similar to me. My roommate and next door neighbor were my only in-building friends. Everyone else is from other buildings. So just reach out and give it some time. I could promise you it'll get much better. RU is huge and you're bound to find someone. =)</p>
<p>EDIT: First post ever! I've been a CC forum lurker for quite some time.</p>