<p>ok so this is probably a really weird question to ask advice for but i'm really in a tough situation here. i'm currently at villanova, but i've applied to transfer as a sophomore to georgetown for this fall. to make a long story short, my parents are super-controlling and have wanted me to go there for years (i'm their only kid of 4 that ever stood a chance at getting in, and they're all into the idea of the "best catholic school in the country." yes, i know they are insane). they're basically planning on forcing me to go there if i get in by refusing to pay for nova. i've been working really hard at nova and currently have a 4.0 with a spanish major, so while i may still not get in to gtown, i think i still have a solid chance (sat 1420, hs gpa 3.8 unweighted). </p>
<p>i've tried talking to my parents about it and they aren't changing their minds. to them, if they're going to pay $50k a year for college, it's going to be the best college I can possibly get into. if next year harvard joined forces with the catholic church, i'd be going through this again. i absolutely LOVE nova and i'm SO happy there, so I DO NOT WANT TO TRANSFER. but considering i can't swing tuition by myself, i might not have a choice...</p>
<p>so my question is, how do i sabotage myself into not getting in? i would have to have a letter saying i'm denied, or my parent's wont budge. i'm debating sending the admissions people an email explaining my situation, but i don't know if they would take it seriously, i feel like i'd have to do it in person or sign something, which could get tricky. the app is already in, and my parents both read it to make sure it was perfect, so does anyone have any thoughts?! </p>
<p>thanks for anyones advice, i know this is a weird question and probably kind of irritating...</p>
<p>I think if you called the admissions office and explained your situation about not really wanting to transfer but having been forced to apply by your parents, they would be able to mark your application with such information..</p>
<p>As long as you have all of the information to identify yourself.. SSN, and so forth, I don't see why they wouldn't take it seriously? I'd call as opposed to email, though.</p>
<p>If you're not interested in transferring, it's not fair to the other people who want to go to Georgetown for the right reasons to have to compete for so few spots against someone who really doesn't want to be there in the first place.</p>
<p>Ultimately though, there's a bigger issue that you need to address. You're an adult now, and need to stand up to your parents and tell them how you feel. You're old enough now that you should be able to make your own decisions about the direction of your education. </p>
<p>Are you sure you can't pay for your education yourself? You might go to your financial aid office and explain the situation, and see what your options are. It might mean you would need to take out some loans, but I'm sure there's options available to you.. you need to decide if your happiness for the next few years is worth that price.</p>
<p>when all is said and done, nova is $50k per year. with my parents able to pay, there is no way i could get financial aid...considering i have absolutely zip saved to pay for it, i don't think it would be wise. not to mention the fact that in doing so i would probably be estranging myself from my parents, which, as insane as they are, is not something i would ever want to do.</p>
<p>i do understand that there is a much larger issue with my parents at hand, and it's something i've been working on for a long time. but, as ken said, i don't think it's fair for me to take a place from someone who really wants it, if i'm going to be going there so grudgingly (nothing against georgetown, either...i loved it when i visited, but i'm happy here and see no reason to transfer).</p>
<p>i personally think Notre Dame is a better catholic school then GT - i actually was accepted to GT for transfer last year but opted for UMich - closer to fam and hella cheap for the education i get (even though id rather be at ND)</p>
<p>If you explain the admin what the deal is, they wont care - they get your 65$ for teh application and all they have to do is stamp a denial on the app and you are set.</p>
<p>Why don't you just go and make your parents proud? No offense, but your situation is a tad childish. Unless you're willing to shell out $50k/year for your own education, your parents are going to have full and final say in college selection. </p>
<p>It's not even like Georgetown's the worst school on Earth. Consider yourself very fortunate they want you to go there and not some arbitrary, fundamentalist Christian university. (Bob Jones comes to mind.)</p>
<p>You really need to have a talk with your parents. Your lucky that you found a school that you love being at even if it's not the "top" school in your parents eyes. It seems like your attempt failed but you need to keep trying. Perhaps talking to an adviser or counselor at your current school could help. Having a meeting between your parents, you and one of your professor's, or even your dean might be a way to get the ball rolling. There's plenty of ways to "sabotage" your application but that does nothing but make things worse. If you don't get in, your parents may even call the school and ask why and that's probably not a good situation that you want to get yourself into. Good Luck.</p>
<p>Katy, are you going to church where you are? Maybe if you get involved with a good congregation where you have a lot of spiritual support and feel like you fit in your parents will be more comfortable with you staying.</p>