<p>This is all crazy, excuse me, but you guys look like businessmen who never create family for the sake of advancing in business. </p>
<p>If that girl means something to you you won't ask such questions and if you do then you definitely don't want any relationship with her. You then probably treat "girl" just as another EC or something which should be put into your years before planned time-schedule which is all broken down to minutes.</p>
<p>Go for the grades, for the girl's sake. Sheesh.</p>
<p>Mr_chipset has is right. She's not an extracurricular activity or a scheduling block. </p>
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<p>I'd say go for the grades. Being in a realtionship would only distract you from your studies. Once you are out of high school, then look around for girls. It's that simple.
Or just be honest with her and tell her that you want to take it really really slow because you want to concentrate on school and stuff.</p>
<p>Yeah...i'd say go for the grades over the girl...however, maybe a really casual relationship might work. Relieves stress... and being less tense about grades= better preformance. Everybody wins!</p>
<p>this just goes to prove that all of you are way to serious about work</p>
<p>not to mention...it was your junior grades that matter</p>
<p>CC has such twisted logic...</p>
<p>*** lol. Go with the girl man. Seriously, ***. If you don't think you will be able to keep up your grades with a girl here, what will happen in college with even more distractions? Anyway, go with what you want to do, your grades will be fine.</p>
<p>Yes. Consider Moose's logic. Once you're in college, will you still 'sacrifice girls for grades' for grad school?</p>
<p>If you're seriously having trouble deciding this, its probably better for the girls that you don't choose correctly.</p>
<p>Grades, definitely. Think, you want to be the guy who once had the hot girl, or the very intelligent guy who can get the hot girl (if he has time)?</p>
<p>^ since when did girls dig anti-social geeks?</p>
<p>I think sometimes a lot of CC posters forget that "success" can be defined many different ways. Getting good grades and getting into a good college is viewed as success in the eyes of many, but being in a happy, healthy relationship may make you a lot happier, and in the eyes of many others, happiness might be the ultimate success.</p>
<p>^ but if a person is in a healthy relationship (which distracts him/her from school), that person will ultimately end up not going to the best college and will not have the carrer oportunities that he/she might have had if s/he stuck to the books.
In the end --since little or no money would be coming in due to the lack of good job oportunites which came as a result of one's neglect of one's studies becasue of being in a relationship -- the girl would leave him becasue he can't offer her all the things she wants. sothe relationship would be doomed.</p>
<p>The point isn't that you have to give up one to have the other. If someone's sole goal in life is to make it to the Ivies and they give up their high school experience to achieve it, I think it would be best to step back and take an objective look at their life.</p>
<p>There's nothing wrong with aiming high and working toward that goal. Becoming socially maladjusted because of it IS wrong though. Honestly, it's not like adcoms are completely oblivious to students who put school far, far ahead of everything else in life. It's painfully obvious to most people when someone has that attitude, and it's not necessarily a good thing.</p>
<p>And I mean, how can someone compare a girlfriend to a calculus textbook? Who would honestly give up a loving companion, even if doomed to eventually end, for a textbook?</p>
<p>It's a question of balance. If you want to focus only on your studies, no one will stop you, but really. Where will it end? Grad school? PhD? Work? Personally, I'd rather take a small dip in my grades (which isn't even guaranteed, why can't I keep my grades up and have a girlfriend at the same time?), and spend time with someone I care for than take comfort from a trivial test result.</p>
<p>The OP never said he cared for the girl, He's interested but is hesitant becasue for some reason he feels that it may affect his grades.
It's not okay to "take a small dip into your grades" because that small dip can cost you alot. It can make a big diffrence when it comes to applying for schools.
But you are right about one thing. The best thing to do is balance them. After all, too much (or little) of anything is unhealthy.</p>
<p>I wasn't referring to the OP in particular, but speaking generally.</p>
<p>I think people are grossly oversimplifying here. Dating someone in high school isn't (USUALLY) going to be the difference between Harvard and a commuity college. Furthermore, going to Harvard doesn't garentee job security, just as going to a lesser Uni doesn't disqualify you from job security. </p>
<p>Also, some relationships are about more than just financial security. Just becuase you aren't making millions doesn't mean that your future mate will leave you. If they did for that reason, I would say it wasn't a very good relationship to start with. </p>
<p>Lastly, there are many people out there who don't go to a top university, and who make enough money to get by. </p>
<p>I got into a top college. I had a relationship 3 out of 4 years in high school.</p>
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Who would honestly give up a loving companion, even if doomed to eventually end, for a textbook?
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Me. :p
Sorry, couldn't resist myself. There are some good books out there, you know.
Girls are still cool though. :)</p>
<p>^ lol!</p>
<p>Ya, as a girl, I can say intelligent guys are much more attractive than the denser ones. Maybe not so much in middle school, but generally I believe this is the case.</p>
<p>^ You'll soon realize you're in the minority if you look around at who gets most of the girls.</p>