Say it here cause you can't say it directly- the get it off your chest thread (Part 1)

<p>Post-grad life is so complex, yet so beautiful. I wish everyone could experience the joys, struggles, hopes, and adventure I’m seeing.</p>

<p>Listen up. You drop out of all family communication for ages at a time, you don’t respond to family e-mails and then suddenly you are stalking my daughter for advice on college applications after your brother strongly told you to talk to me since I have been through the process three times. I only called you last night because my daughter was sick of hearing you and your daughter fighting on the phone and she’s too busy for your craziness. I stayed up until after midnight reading and making suggestions on your daughter’s essay, e-mailed it back, and neither one of you could be bothered to so much as send me an acknowledgement that you received it. And yet you indicated you will want more advice in the next several weeks. You are almost 50 years old. It is time for you to grow up and learn some basic social niceties and to stop being so incredibly selfish and self-centered.</p>

<p>So this is how we’re going to spend the next 20 years of marriage with an empty nest? You falling asleep on the couch by 8pm every night. Or on the rare occasions you are awake you are glued to some inane “reality” show while your brain slowly seeps of your head. </p>

<p>Meanwhile I can go upstairs alone, read, or surf the net. Super. I have a roommate instead of a wife. You’ve said you would change but you have not. </p>

<p>I now officially have my farher’s life. ■■■!</p>

<p>I am tired of dealing with your passive aggressive nonsense. If you’ve got something to say, just say it!!! Your silent-treatment, pouty-victim demeanor has driven me crazy for over 30 years!!! Get over yourself and quit playing the victim!!!</p>

<p>I’m weary…</p>

<p>“I” was not the one who messed up the insurance filing…your office did. However, I am the one who has to fix the mess…HELP ME OUT!! I jumped through all the hoops I needed to, and if I hadn’t caught this error, no one would’ve…not your office, not either insurance company, no one!!! Until you were all dead and gone and they audited you and sued me for insurance fraud. And everytime I call, I have to start over reciting this sad saga to someone new…IS YOUR OFFICE LIKE THE PENTAGON??? Is there are reason I can’t talk to the same person twice, or the person who makes the final decision? Are they busy launching the space shuttle and don’t have time for me??? </p>

<p>Four months of wasted time in paperwork and phone calls…no wonder you must charge 3 times the normal rate! This is why my insurance rates are so high…and why your doc lives in a mansion!</p>

<p>And this better not wreck my credit rating!!</p>

<p>(I feel like I am hogging this thread lately…maybe I need anger management! :D)</p>

<p>Darling Daughter…Dump this guy already. It makes me sick that he is out with his friends every weekend going to the clubs and casinos while you believe that he is not involved with his roommate. His FB pictures are damning and that is why he removed all of his pictures from FB. I thought you would be less gullible but I guess your still in denial that this once great guy is nothing but a pig. He could send letters to the pope for all I care and his words do not mean anything. Judge him by his actions and you will see his manipulation. Kick him out of your life please!!! Wow, I wish I could tell her that.</p>

<p>To have to observe this nonsense is damn tough. I wish I could intervene for you - protect you and help you. I know I can not. But, sadly, the worst part is that I can not even support you. You do not tell me any details. I am in the dark, and I only learn from others.</p>

<p>Seriously? Seriously! You had two things to do…that’s it. Two phone calls to make. Oh the horrors of actually picking up the phone and talking to someone on the phone to ask a question. So you didn’t have the foresight to understand that their offices would both be closing by 5? So now you will not be getting those ‘projects’ done so easily this weekend because you don’t have the information you need. This is why you don’t wait until the last minute. It ALWAYS takes longer…trust me…just this once, don’t fight me on this and trust me. When I suggest you make a phone call at 2pm, don’t wait until 5:30 on Friday afternoon. And, no…your email didn’t work. You got an auto response saying they would get back with you within five days. Let me know how that works out for you, kay?</p>

<p>Until you’re not contagious anymore, STOP touching all the stuff I just spent hours disinfecting! GRRRR</p>

<p>No I don’t still have a cold - I have asthma, and right now, after trying 6 medications in a month, it’s still not under control. You don’t like listening to me cough? Well it sucks having lungs that don’t work.</p>

<p>I’m sorry. I do the best I can. I know it’s not good enough, but I’m still going to try.</p>

<p>So he came in again, sees you for three hours and leaves to party with his friends all weekend. Get rid of this guy already. Wouldn’t it make you feel good to be proactive instead of of letting someone call all of the shots? How could you let someone treat you this way? I wish I never told you years ago that he was a great guy…now his real self is showing and you are “in love”. You are being manipulated by a womanizer and everyone has told you so but you just hear his BS words. When he graduates and his friends from college have all gone their seperate ways he will than want to hang out…I hope you tell him to go to h$#$ in May.</p>

<p>I wish I could let you know that I will miss you. Thanks for all the support you gave D through some tough times. I know you feel like she’s abandoned you, but it’s for the best - at least for now. I wish you nothing but the best. I wish I could ask you to stay in touch, but I can’t.</p>

<p>So “you” are embarassed by me? You own mother embarasses you at a restaurant? Well hope you enjoy washing dishes cuz I am not paying for your dinner. I am embarassed by you too. But difference is, I have the credit card honeybunch.</p>

<p>Stop talking!</p>

<p>Simply put I miss them.</p>

<p>You once again made me wish I could blink my eyes and disappear when you open your mouth. What the hell makes you think I must support you when you choose to move out. You are never home anyway so why the hell should I support a second household. You have so much nerve and all the depression andmanipulation and drama is NOT going to get me to pay your bills. I HAVE DONE ENOUGH and you are an ingrate. Do you think for one moment that I don’t realize that he graduates in May and does not want to live at home. He wants you to move out so he could stay with you rent free. Grow the hell up and stop expecting me to pay for these expenses. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN.</p>

<p>I have no problem with you moving out in fact I can’t wait to see you go, but you need to figure out how to pay the rent, heat, electric, cable, food and everything else. How dare you tell me that I am paying your car insurance and bills…you have really lost your mind!</p>

<p>Why, oh why, does everything have to fall on the same weekend? And why, oh why, didn’t I look at the calendar first? Darn, darn! I really wanted to go to the city. Wahhh!</p>

<p>You’ve been a friend for 30 years, but you don’t have kids-- so what makes you the world’s expert on them? If I want your opinion, I’ll ask. Really. Your “helpful” comments come across as bossy, critical and demeaning. No one needs you to tell them what to do, especially when you don’t know what you are talking about. Yes, perhaps I was getting “worked up” (though you didn’t have to say anything-- thats rude-- where are your manners?) . I was getting “worked up” because your constant “know it all” critical comments were pi$$ing me off!!!</p>