I am a parent and I suspect my younger DD may feel like this when she goes to college in a year LOL…
I read your other thread where you mentioned you mother pressured you to go to Wellesley and you are thinking to transfer even before you begin school…
Are you doubting that you may not succeed in Wellesley? my suggestion is to enjoy the balance of summer, take an easier workload next year, say include a course that you can get college credit in…join a club and make a few friends…if you still do not like the college, then transfer (BTW, just thinking that you can have control on what you can do, hopefully it can give you some comfort)…
As an aside, I told my DD earlier that she can go to a lower ranking college…it is her life…
This is the third thread about anxiety before Wellesley. One of the other ones was closed. If you are a student anticipating going, I suggest a visit to allay worry and build familiarity. If you had legitimate reasons for accommodations in high school, get a documented diagnosis and visit the disabilities office. If you feel too immature and feel that is really a valid reason to delay going, then defer and take a gap year, but it is more likely that attending will help you mature, and you will certainly not be alone in that.
@compmom Your post inspired me to check… all 3 threads were started by the OP.
It seems like this is a huge cause for concern for the OP. Take compmom’s advice.
You have asked this same question multiple times already. It is normal to be nervous about going to college. I’d suggest that you arrange for counseling when you get to campus to help you transition.
I did not realize this was the third thread! Truly, there is only so much an Internet forum can do for you. We don’t know your story. You should talk to your parents or to a counselor or to some of those high school teachers you were close to.
I wish you all the best in deciding how to proceed.
You can do this if you do not sabotage yourself. Definitely go to the counseling center as soon as you get to campus to get support. Colleges have much support but you have to reach out…but they are there for you!
So to do well, consider the following:
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GO TO CLASS, BUY THE BOOK, READ THE CHAPTERS, AND DO THE HOMEWORK!
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Go to Professor’s office hours early in the semester and Ask this question: “I know this is a really difficult class-- what are some of the common mistakes students make and how can I avoid them?”
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If you have problems with the homework, go to Prof’s office hours. If they have any “help sessions” or “study sessions” or “recitations” or any thing extra, go to them.
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Form a study group with other kids in your dorm/class.
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Don’t do the minimum…for STEM classes do extra problems. You can buy books that just have problems for calculus or physics or whatever. Watch videos on line about the topic you are studying.
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Go to the writing center if you need help with papers/math center for math problems (if they have them)
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If things still are not going well, get a tutor.
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Read this book: How to Become a Straight-A Student: The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less by Cal Newport. It helps you with things like time management and how to figure out what to write about for a paper, etc.
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If you feel you need to withdraw from a class, talk to your advisor as to which one might be the best …you may do better when you have less classes to focus on. But some classes may be pre-reqs and will mess your sequence of classes up.
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For tests that you didn’t do well on, can you evaluate what went wrong? Did you never read that topic? Did you not do the homework for it? Do you kind of remember it but forgot what to do? Then next time change the way you study…there may be a study skill center at your college.
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How much time outside of class do you spend studying/doing homework? It is generally expected that for each hour in class, you spend 2-3 outside doing homework. Treat this like a full time job.
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At first, don’t spend too much time other things rather than school work. (sports, partying, rushing fraternities/sororities, video gaming etc etc)
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If you run into any social/health/family troubles (you are sick, your parents are sick, someone died, broke up with boy/girlfriend, suddenly depressed/anxiety etcetc) then immediately go to the counseling center and talk to them. Talk to the dean of students about coordinating your classes…e.g. sometimes you can take a medical withdrawal. Or you could withdraw from a particular class to free up tim for the others. Sometimes you can take an incomplete if you are doing well and mostly finished the semester and suddenly get pneumonia/in a car accident (happened to me)…you can heal and take the final first thing the next semester. But talk to your adviser about that too.
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At the beginning of the semester, read the syllabus for each class. It tells you what you will be doing and when tests/HW/papers are due. Put all of that in your calendar. The professor may remind you of things, but it is all there for you to see so take initiative and look at it.
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Make sure you understand how to use your online class system…Login to it, read what there is for your classes, know how to upload assignments (if that is what the prof wants).
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If you get an assignment…make sure to read the instructions and do all the tasks on the assignment. Look at the rubric and make sure you have covered everything.
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If you are not sure what to do, go EARLY to the professors office hours…not the day before the assignment is due.
You might think that this is all completely obvious, but I have read many stories on this and other websites where people did not do the above and then are asking for help on academic appeal letters.
I am wondering if this was written by the student. Just something about the wording.
The repeated posts suggest a need for counseling 
Do any current or former students from Wellesley College have advice on cultivating a good social life? I personally am pretty introverted and not into frat parties, and I feel kind of sad I might not have the chance to attend smaller more low key parties which tend to be more of my thing. Thanks.
Hi. I got into Wellesley and am attending in the fall. I think it is definitely an amazing school which produces fierce, amazingly successful graduates! However, I really was pressured by my mom to go and I don’t think I’ll enjoy an all women, intense, possibly isolated environment. I get stressed out easily and don’t want to burn out. Is it really bad if I go in planning to transfer out? At this point I feel I have no other options. My mom said I have to go. I WILL make an attempt to make friends and do my best to manage my classes and clubs but I know many people say not to bother going to a school I don’t think I’ll like in the first place because you won’t even be able to focus or do well and I might have a rough time in transferring credits? Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.