School Hates Me HELP

College Life
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<p>I had a roommate in college who hated me on sight. She wanted to share a dorm room with someone she had at the school’s orientation the summer before and was downright angry that she got stuck with me. She would yell at me, throw things at me, and lock me out of our dorm room on a regular basis. She also told me that she could have me kicked out of school and housing due to her family connections.</p>

<p>She also contacted the school’s staff and made up stories about how I’m “crazy” and she “wasn’t comfortable sharing a room with” me. I tried to tell staff members how she was torturing me, but all I was told was; “She’s concerned about you.”</p>

<p>After she did that, I was forced to change rooms. Of course I was forced to change rooms and not her. </p>

<p>She continued to harass me via phone calls and e-mails after I changed rooms, including death threats.</p>

<p>I from Florida, but attended college in Illinois. I requested being able to stay in housing over Thanksgiving break because the break is short and plane tickets are expensive, plus I had a lot of errands to run.</p>

<p>Just before Thanksgiving break, I was in my dorm room eating lunch when a staff member of that school knocked on my door and told me that I was needed in the office. From the office I was removed to a mental hospital. I was told that it was because the staff was “worried about” me “staying in the dorms over Thanksgiving break”</p>

<p>School staff had no reason, except for the false accusations of my roommate to be “worried about” me. They also could have simply denied my request to stay in the dorms. Had they done that, I would have just bought another plane ticket.</p>

<p>My mom had to drive from Florida to get me out of the hospital. She ended up losing her job to the unapproved days she had to take off of work. Since it was too late to transfer anywhere else, I stayed until the end of the year then dropped out.</p>

<p>I reapplied in 2011 and was accepted. However the school does not offer housing to anyone over the (btw – How is that not age discrimination?), which I now am. Since I live in another state, I had a lot of trouble finding someplace willing to rent to me. I requested that the school make an exception regarding housing. My request was denied.</p>

<p>I finally found someone willing to rent me an apartment without meeting me first. I paid the first month’s rent and deposit via PayPal. When I got to Illinois several weeks later I saw that it was a scam and there was no apartment. </p>

<p>I called the school in tears and told someone what happened. She was initially very kind. She got my name and phone number then put me on hold to contact someone else. When she got back on the phone she said only; “Sorry, we don’t offer housing to adult students” and hung up.</p>

<p>I stayed in a motel for several days, while searching for a place to live. With my money depleted that was impossible, so I returned to Florida.</p>

<p>In an effort to prove my wrong, my friend, who has never applied to or been a student at this school. E-mailed them and gave my exact circumstance and claimed to be a student. She was just given housing.</p>

<p>Several weeks later, I e-mailed the school and requested housing. The very same person whom my friend had spoken to told me this; </p>

<p>“I am sorry to hear that about your previous bad experience with online renting. Unfortunately our age policy for students living in the university apartments is firm, so we cannot make an exception. I’ve gone ahead and attached a guide though that shows apartment companies that are pretty renter friendly for college students in the area. I hope this helps!”</p>

<p>That's obviously not true as they were willing to make an exception for my friend.</p>

<p>I tried looking online again for a place to live for the next year, but it was again difficult and I was too scared, so I e-mailed the same person 2 months later and was again turned down.</p>

<p>I filed a complaint with the Office for Civil Rights. I was hurt and embarrassed by the fact that the school clearly didn’t want me there so I just filed on the basis of age discrimination. I was given housing then. </p>

<p>Unfortunately, due to changes made in 2012 I no longer qualify for a Pell grant. This cut my aid significantly. I applied for a private loan and was turned down. </p>

<p>I filed another complaint with the OCR on the basis of discrimination based on a perceived mental illness, but because I waited too long, my request was turned down. </p>

<p>I’ve asked staff members at the school multiple times why my friend who was never a student was given housing and I wasn’t, but they refuse to answer, declaring the matter “resolved.” I called on Wednesday and I was told that no one at that school would ever answer my question.</p>

<p>I’ve applied to 5 different state colleges and they all rejected me on the basis that I have “too many credits” to transfer.</p>

<p>I don’t know what to do.</p>

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<p>Sorry, I’m a little unclear on why you dropped out of your school after the first year? Surely it wasn’t just because of your bad roommate? WERE there other issues going on at the time?</p>

<p>Why didn’t you try to get an apartment with the companies the school suggested? If it’s true that your friend got housing and you didn’t, that’s definitely messed up, but why didn’t you try to get an apartment using the guide they gave you? What do you mean you were “too scared?”</p>

<p>You only completed one year of college, right? I don’t know a lot about transferring schools, but to me, it seems really weird that other schools would say you have too many credits to transfer. I think that transferring after one year is probably one of the most common times to transfer. Did the schools actually tell you that that was the reason?</p>

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<p>I dropped out after junior year.</p>

<p>And, as I said in my post, I dropped out because the school removed me to a mental hospital based on the false accusations of my roommate and because I was genuinely scared of her. She threatened to kill me.</p>

<p>Also, again like I said in my post, I did rent an apartment. It turned out to be a scam and I lost nearly $2,000. I was scared to try renting an apartment over the internet again.</p>

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<p>Why didn’t you take a day and go apartment hunting in person like most people do when moving to a new location? You already were familiar with the area, right? I think it sounds like you were/are young, very insecure, and get pushed around a lot. You have to get some self-confidence, realize you are older and an adult, and just go get the things you want without being scared or whining. Just enroll in school, live in your car if you have to, and finish the degree so you can move on. Did you record the room mate threatening you? You said the room mate also sent threatening emails to you. Did you show them to college administrators? Why didn’t you use it to help your case? Did you have other friends who saw how you were being treated? If the roommate issues were freshman year, there was a lot of time between then and junior year. You mean to tell me that the roommate had power over you for that long? Something isn’t right…</p>

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<p>… sigh</p>

<p>Someone was bored tonight I guess.</p>

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<p>teachandmom - Where did I say I lived with that roommate since freshman year? I only lived with that roommate for 5 weeks in my junior year. She was a freshman when I was a junior so it would’ve been impossible for me to share a dorm with her before that. </p>

<p>I sent printed copies of the e-mails my ex-roommate sent me to the school, where she outright threatened to kill me, but they just ignored them. </p>

<p>The school is located 900 miles from where I live so it’s kinda hard to go apartment hunting. I moved via airplane. I sold my car before I moved since the school in a large city and I wouldn’t really need a car there. And, AS I SAID IN MY POST, I did look for a place to live when I was stranded after being scammed. I spent 5 days in a sleazy motel and looked for apartments. After being cheated out almost $2,000 I didn’t have enough for a deposit and first month’s rent.</p>

<p>You’re all ignoring the real problem; that the school thinks I’m “crazy” and is trying to keep me out and that they were willing to make exceptions in the housing policy for others, but not me.</p>

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<p>Why didn’t the mental hospital write a letter or something saying that you were fine? If you get the proper documentation, the school should let you back in.
But I agree with a previous poster, there is something not adding up.</p>

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<p>This post made me wonder which party is right</p>

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<p>What doesn’t “add up?” The school thinks I’m crazy and doesn’t want me in housing. It’s pretty simple.</p>

<p>The hospital diagnosed me with “depression.” Which I don’t have. I was really upset about the bullying (keep in mind someone was calling and e-mailing me death threats on a daily basis) AND that I had been forced into a mental hospital for no reason. The school let me return in the spring and I finished out my junior year. They seem to have no issue with my being in school, just housing.</p>

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<p>Does the school offer online courses? Is there any way you could now complete your degree online instead of living there? When you were a student there, did you ever notice apartment buildings around off campus? It seems you should be able to find a real building through a real rental agent with a real apartment to rent. If you are above age 24, you should be able to borrow more through the government. Maybe that will be enough to finish? How many courses do you have left? Or, move there, work, and attend classes as you can pay for them, just to finally finish?</p>

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<p>What school is this? Seems like the place where poeple shouldn’t goto.</p>

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<p>Do you know other students at the school who rent instead of living on campus? Contact them to see where they’ve found housing and if they know of any openings. </p>

<p>If you return to school a bit early, you could sublet from someone on summer vacation and use that time when you have relatively few commitments to find a place.</p>

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<p>Did you keep copies of the emailed death threats? I mean, something like that is pretty serious, and the emails would provide you with hard evidence.</p>

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<p>I did keep the death threat e-mails just in case my ex-roommate did something. I showed school staff members, but I ignored them.</p>

<p>It’s Saint Xavier University in Chicago, IL.</p>

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<p>Go see a lawyer. This is either an open and shut lawsuit against the school, a total fabrication by you, or based in reality but misreported to us consciously or more likely unconsciously due to some underlying issues.</p>

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<p>Why do you think it’s a "fabrication? </p>

<p>Everything happened exactly like I said. I have mountains of proof. I have the e-mails that my former roommate sent. I have e-mails from when I requested housing and was turned down. I have e-mails from when my friend contacted the school and asked for housing and was given it.</p>

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<p>Why didn’t you report the death threats to the police?</p>

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<p>Fabrication is probably least likely. I think most likely is that while you genuinely think you’re telling us the whole truth, you are not. The alternative is that you and everyone around you were too naive to go to the police or a lawyer because if everything you say is 100% true then there’s no reason this should have dragged out over so many years. </p>

<p>First you have a roommate making false claims against you although this might be hard to prove. As soon as you were getting death threats that the school was ignoring though you had a lawsuit most lawyers only dream of. You were illegally committed to a mental hospital (at least according to you since you are saying there is no evidence you were a harm to yourself or others), and you have proof that the school is creating policies that only apply to you.</p>

<p>This is A LOT of stuff to go wrong. You’re either misinterpreting things that happen around you or you need to get your butt to a lawyer’s office so they can salivate over the lawsuit you’ll have.</p>

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<p>^Agreed.</p>

<p>Your case, if 100% real, would be a field day for lawyers- they would flock to you en masse.</p>

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<p>Lawyers don’t want anything to do with you unless you have any money. I have no money. I called lawyers and all they were interested in was how I could pay them.</p>

<p>I didn’t think the police would do anything because my ex roommate hadn’t of physically hurt me. I’ve been stalked, trust me they don’t care.</p>

<p>The school specifically told me that they don’t make exceptions to their housing policy. Yet when my friend e-mailed them they made an exception for her. How could I possibly “misinterpreting” THAT?</p>

<p>I like how you people don’t know me and weren’t there yet you “know” what happened. Everything I said is 100% accurate.</p>