Second Semester Homesick

<p>Hey guys...</p>

<p>I had a great first semester--was not homesick AT ALL. I made a lot of friends, enjoyed my classes, and didn't even want to come home for winter break!</p>

<p>However, now that I'm back, I'm extremely homesick. I don't really care that much about my friends from last semester--I'm kind of sick of them, and wonder if I just made friends with them because I was desperate. I have 8 AM classes four days a week that leave me depressed walking to class in freezing, dark weather and then bored for the rest of the day when I have nothing to do. A girl I absolutely despise in one of my classes that has only nine people. I used to love the crowded dining hall, now it makes me want to crawl under my covers. I hate all the crowds. The guy I was kind of with first semester isn't talking to me anymore. I feel overwhelmed, not excited about my activities, and unable to concentrate on my homework. Each day just stretches into the next and I miss my family like crazy. All the novelty of college is gone; its not fun anymore for me. I am thinking about transferring. I literally feel a pit in my stomach every time I wake up. </p>

<p>Any suggestions?</p>

<p>I went through something like this, I ended up transferring. It came as a surprise to my family because they thought I loved the university, but things changed for the worse second semester, once the novelty wore off. At my second school, I find myself going through something similar my second semester, but not nearly as bad. Some people constantly need new situations in order to be happy, try joining some new clubs to spend time with different people and do different things.</p>

<p>One reason you may be feeling "down" is that you just got back from Christmas break. If you had a great time with family and friends, it may make uneasiness a lot worse. If you're still feeling this way in a couple of weeks, try talking to someone at the counseling center or a trusted professor. They've been at the university for a while and may have some ideas. Remember that it took some time to build your high school friendships; it's not unusual to take several semesters to establish that same foundation in college. If it's the classes you don't like, change them if possible. It does make a difference.</p>

<p>I feel the same way. Especially with the oncoming of rush for selective living groups, I feel offbase with most of my friends from last semester, like they've moved on and are spreading their wings to meet different people, and I'm just stuck with no one...</p>

<p>I didn't feel any of this at all last semester, and now I'm struggling to find my place in it all...</p>

<p>Sounds like the winter blues to me...</p>

<p>Try a natural light source for a few hours a day, many people get depressed over the winter months due to lack of natural daylight.</p>

<p>what school is this? that you feel so cold and depressed in.. must be some new england ivy or something. we all know those could get depressing.</p>

<p>So what, Harvard kids are more likely to have second semester homesickness than Stanford kids? What kind of thinking is that?</p>

<p>I think it will just take time to get back into the swing of things. What is making your 1st semester friends so unappealing now?</p>

<p>Grow a spine.</p>

<p>This is happeninng to me too, as well as some of my other friends here. You pretty much summed it up when you said the novelty of being in college has worn off. The first semester, everyone was on their own for the first time away from aprents telling them what to do, and I thought that was so cool. I would spend nights in friends rooms just hanging out until 4 AM or do my homework whenever I wanted without having my parents bugging me about everying like in HS. However, second semester it seems like that novelty has worn off, and its kind of like "wow, I have 3 and a half more years of this?" I sort of feel like a second semester senior all over again, kind of just waiting to get out and move onto something new.</p>

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<p>The OP says that its dark at 8AM; more likely Harvard than Stanford.</p>

<p>I think part of the problem too is that eveyrone says 2nd semester is supposed to be perfect. Many have told me it was their best semester of college. I'm not really feeling it either, but perhaps my expectations were too high. Life sucks, you just gotta work at it :)</p>

<p>BTW I think the OP goes to BU (judging from their other posts)</p>

<p>Is commuting an option?</p>

<p>It actually sounds like the OP may be suffering from some depression - not unusual at all. The glamor or going to college and reality of going to college can hit pretty hard - and for some it can take a while before it hits. May not be such a bad idea to talk to someone about what is bothering you.</p>

<p>And it is not dark @8am in the nor'east :)</p>

<p>I agree with JeepMom. You might want to talk to someone in the counseling center. Make sure you get outside some, get some exercise, eat right, and get enough sleep.</p>

<p>I had the same problem, but not with college. I moved to Texas from Cali to gain residency before I go to UT. Ya I missed my parents and everyone when I first left, but I was not depressed or sad or anything, I was excited. Then, I went home for Christmas, like u did, had a great time, then came back in early January. That was when it hit me, and it hit hard. I was extremely sad, I constantly thought about my parents and dogs, I call them every night, and almost every time I was crying. And I NEVER cry. It was a terrible time. But my parents really helped me through it. They made me realize how blessed I was, having a family like them, having the opportunites I have, and also going to college. There are literally millions upon millions of kids who would want to change positions with us. My parents also made me realize that these hard times are character building times. You will become a better person after all of this is over.</p>

<p>Maybe you should go to a club and meet some ******* guys and give them a good time, I dunno. Make a connection.</p>

<p>JeepMom is right. I live in the northeast/mid-atlantic area. I had to be at HS by 8am. It was never still dark when I got there, never. </p>

<p>It's been almost a month since the OP started this topic. If he/she is still feeling this way, then it may be something more than needing to adjust to being back at school. Maybe talking about it will help. Are you still uninterested in reconnecting with your 1st semester friends.</p>

<p>Has anyone else noticed that this OP has not posted on CC since this post?? Wonder what happened..................</p>

<p>Maybe they went home...?</p>

<p>Maybe you should toughen up and face the real world.</p>