Self-doubt about having chosen Cornell

<p>I am so frustrated with everyone (friends mostly) who say little things that make me so nervous about whether I made the right choice with Cornell. They probably don't think it is a big deal but stuff like:
"I always envisioned you going to a college near a big city."
"I can see you transferring immediately if you don't like it."
"It's so cold..and isolated..."
"Isn't it pretty easy to get into early decision?" SHUT UP SHUT UP
and of course, "Don't kill yourself!"</p>

<p>WHY!!!?!?! It feels like this has been going on since I got in early decision. Why can't people just be supportive? WHO discusses transferring, at this point in time?!!? I am already like the most fickle, indecisive person, and this is making me doubt myself even more!!! Grr. Why would someone say they envision me going to school by a city, when clearly, I have made my choice, MONTHS EARLIER? It seems absolutely rude and insensitive. It is 1:30 am and I can't sleep because I am so annoyed with this. Worst of all, I can't help but think they are right, and Cornell is WRONG for me!!!!</p>

<p>Basically, I needed to rant. Does anyone else get crap like this!!?!?! People suck!!! I wish I were a 17-year-old in some European country, like Greece, where the college process is a million times chiller, as is life in general.</p>

<p>I like Cornell :)</p>

<p>You have to go with your gut, and it's you attending Cornell, not them. Most of those comments are more or less their own implicit opinions of the school. ie) "I always envisioned you going to a college near a big city," can be translated as your friend couldn't imagine going to school away from a big city. They're also most likely jealous of the fact that Cornell is amazing.</p>

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1) "Isn't it pretty easy to get into early decision?" SHUT UP SHUT UP
2) "I can see you transferring immediately if you don't like it."

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<p>They are insecure and jealous. You got into an AMAZING ivy league university that they are not capable of getting into ED OR RD probably. You should just ignore their RUDE/obnoxious comments... just out of curiosity, where did these people end up getting into anyway?</p>

<p>Be proud of yourself. I would be ecstatic if I got in ED :)</p>

<p>i got in RD, but we can't afford it :( But best of luck!</p>

<p>Remember, you would have doubts wherever you might have chosen.</p>

<p>If you chose Penn, for example, you would always get annoyed by the following comments until you graduate: "Are you a business student? I heard that Wharton is a good business school," or "so how do you like attending a large public school?"</p>

<p>Were you to goto Duke: "Oh, yes! It is that school which does so well in basketball."</p>

<p>And Brown: "I heard that Brown's ranking has been dropping continuously for the past decade or so. Is this true?"</p>

<p>WUStL: "Is that the same school as the one in the state of Washington? Or is it in DC?"</p>

<p>Berkeley: "So what instrument do you play?"</p>

<p>Chicago: "(So you are one of those eccentric nerds.)"</p>

<p>Princeton or Yale: "I'm sorry--you must have not gotten into Harvard."</p>

<p>I could go on and on and on. Every school has some sort of distasteful stereotyes attached to it. Cornell is a great school, but not perfect. The school will offer what it will; it's up to you to make the most of it.</p>

<p>They're just jealous. Don't listen to them.</p>

<p>another one is when people talk about the suicide rate years ago at Cornell. . .and telling me to get counseling</p>

<p>Just remember, You'll always earn more than they will.</p>

<p>The people are probably envious of your going to Cornell.</p>

<p>Personally, when people say stuff like that to me I laugh it off on the outside but on the inside I place it deep into my memory and use it as motivation to succeed and shove it in their faces later in life. That's just me though. I advise you not to do the same.</p>

<p>You need to remember there will always be haters. People are sick narcissists and that's something that becomes more and more apparent as you grow up. For instance, volunteering is no longer voluntary... more like required (doesn't this make you want to puke?), but it's reality. You just need to ride the system and make it explode from the inside by succeeding so much that it will make everyone shut up. College is just the beginning.</p>

<p>there are always people like that...this is your decision and no one else can dictate your future and goals, you are in control! Cornell is a tremendous institution and obviously they have no knowledge about it, as their comments are faulty on all accounts! it's hard to say what ppl's intentions are when they say pathetic things like this, but you just laugh it off and go your way!
if you doubt yourself every time someone makes a stupid comment like that, then you will not get anywhere in life! congrats and GL :)</p>

<p>Other things that people say about Cornell since I have decided to attend are:</p>

<p>Isn't that the School where people jump off the bridge?</p>

<p>That's upstate NY, its gonna get really cold ( i don't mind this comment, though)</p>

<p>Cornell is the WORST ivy-league</p>

<p>I like Cornell and I can't wait till I go.</p>

<p>WOW first of all congrats on getting into Cornell!!! You seriously need to pat yourself on the back. Secondly, it is natural to have doubts about any huge, life-changing decision that you are going to make. It's just human nature. You are going to do so well there! (I'm insanely jealous) So try to forget about what your friends are saying (I know easier said than done) and try to focus on the fact that you are going to attending an amazing university in the fall :)</p>

<p>Imgoingtocollege - Congrats on your accomplishment, and on being able to enjoy your senior year knowing where you're headed in August! Most seniors haven't had that luxury, and I'm sure that they wish they had. The right college is different for everyone. Although I love (and work in) the city, Cornell will give you the opportunity to study and work in many cities worldwide while still maintaining that base in Ithaca. And this is the only chance you will have in your lifetime to live in a "city" of your peers. 20,000 exceptional college/grad students is a wonderful assembly of intellect and fun. So sorry that you're the recipient of other folks' insecurities. Wish I'd had the opportunity that you now have - but DD will be joining you in August. Relax, enjoy the end of high school and have a GREAT summer!</p>

<p>I've had the same crap!</p>

<p>People say right behind my back "Cornell isn't THAT great a school" or "It is really not THAT hard to get in" and "they're made up to be a pretty cool place but it doesnt seem so hot" etc. People seem to always cconfuse selectivity with quality of education...and that's probably due to the rankings craze.</p>

<p>In any ccase, I don't understand what the ĵck people think is so lousy about cornell. People tell me "don't jump in the gorges." I don't know what they think is so inferior about it. Cornell ranks 12th in the nation. It would EASILY be in top 10 if it weren't for its size and consequently its selectivity...both of which don't have effect on the education students get. On top of that, in international rankings, Cornell has ranked between 9 and 19th in the WORLD...thats out of COUNTLESS colleges. Furthermore, the individual programs at cornell rank high...I believe, according to NRC, Cornell has the largest number of high ranking programs out of any ivy league.</p>

<p>I think what turns people to believe its not that great is its anti-elitist sort of stance. I suppose it is simply ignorance that gives people these stupid opinions. There is an unstated C in HYP...and perhaps there are a number of other letters there too...the problem is, people just won't look beyond their provincial exposure. Especially the ones that don't get in.</p>

<p>to the OP:</p>

<p>having applied ED, it's clear Cornell was YOUR #1 choice. Congratulations on getting in, you're going to have a great time. </p>

<p>Unfortunately, I wish you friends were more supportive for you. This is a time when you need them. But, don't worry. It may sound cruel, but you will see them less and less each passing semester home and eventually they will be only second at best to your Cornell friends. You're comming into a fantastic community that will support you and where you will have a hell of a lot of fun. Don't worry about where your friends thing you should go to college, worry about where you want to go ... you've already made that decision, it's the right decision, and prepare for the best 4 years of your life. </p>

<p>YOU made an excellent college choice, don't second guess your gut. Congratulations, we'll see you on the hill next fall.</p>

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I always envisioned you going to a college near a big city.

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<p>Ithaca is a college town with 60,000 residents. I think that is pretty big considering that my town where I live is no where near that in terms of population. And remember, the city has its own problems, so while one may like city life, another may like the relative peace and calm of a smaller town.</p>

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I can see you transferring immediately if you don't like it.

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<p>What will make you not like it? Some people can't handle Cornell because it is such a difficult school. Academically, it demands alot, but other than that I don't see much that you can't like.</p>

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It's so cold..and isolated...

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<p>False. Ithaca has cold winters and hot/humid summers, pretty much like any other city in the Northeast. However, I admit weather patterns are different, but it isn't enough to make the assumption above. Isolated...I asnwered this above, plenty of people in Ithaca.</p>

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Isn't it pretty easy to get into early decision?

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<p>The ED rate is usually around 35%. The other Ivies have ED rates around 30% as well. UPenn has 29% and Brown has 28%, I believe. You have to realize that Cornell is a much larger school than most of the Ivies although UPenn is the closest. That plays a role in the ED admissions and admissions in general. And remember with Cornell's RD, the rate is usually around 12-15% and that is right around the other Ivies's RD, and prolly a little less.</p>

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Don't kill yourself!

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<p>This is explained in a sticky in the Cornell forum. It's the stupidest thing that I've heard.</p>

<p>I think the OP should be having doubts about his friends, not Cornell.</p>

<p>Cornell SUX</p>