<p>I have been absolute best friends with a guy I have known since 8th grade, and over the past few months we have started dating. This isn't some high school fling, and I would be a mess not having him around anymore, because we have been so close for years.</p>
<p>I want to go to Colorado for pre-vet. He wants to go to Hawaii.</p>
<p>My friends did a long distance relationship and came out completely fine (only after 6 months though). I am not the kind of person to be able to keep that up, I would want to but it would make me miserable to know that I am holding back another person, and never be able to see them.</p>
<p>Is it worth building up a love to know that it is going to end this coming summer, cutting it off now to prevent some of the hurt, or should we live it up while we can?</p>
<p>There still remains the fact that I don't want to leave him, but that is inescapable.</p>
<p>Thank you! Feel free to comment about your own experiences and issues relating.</p>
<p>I had a guy best friend. We had a really close relationship. I say had because…well that’s another thing. But don’t think that you can’t get on without him. You can. It will be different. You’ll feel alone at times, but develop a new normal. (This is in response to saying you’d be a wreck without him.) </p>
<p>But don’t think just because you guys are moving to different states that it won’t last. I’m sure if you guys are as close as you guys say you are then you’ll find a way to make it work.</p>
<p>It didn’t work out for me an him mainly because I’m pretty independent and once I get an idea in my head I take off with it. (True Gemini over here lol) He was pretty dependent and emotional and…Anywho, we just were just in different mind sets. I advise you to sit down with him and for both of you to share your goals and what experience you hope to get out of college. I also advise you not to short change yourself. Don’t limit your wants for another person especially in college when you’re “finding yourself”.</p>
<p>Let me tell you something from personal experience. I was in a relationship with a girl who was like my best friend all throughout high school. We dated a few times, but this year, just before we graduated, I asked her to Prom. I wrote “Will you go to Prom with me?” on a t-shirt. Anyway, we had graduated and I had a lot of extra time to think about where this was going. We were both staying in Colorado for school. However, I just didn’t think it was going to work for some stupid reason. I’m a guy–it’s our nature. Ha. Well. I broke up with her because I didn’t want to hold her back like you said. I just didn’t think that starting college and trying to maintain a relationship was going to work. I still really liked her, but that didn’t really matter. </p>
<p>Now, two months into college and I still regret cutting it off with her. Now, she already has a boyfriend and given that we are such good friends I have already went to see her and it is just awkward, really. I know now that my life would be so much better had I stayed with her. </p>
<p>Here’s what I say to you: If you like each other than do it–try a long distance relationship. If you both want it to work it will. Otherwise, I would say break it off now and in four years if you still feel the same, get back together. However, the second one is risky. I don’t know your situation, but I would like to say that you two should stay together. Relationships with your best friend is the one that will probably last if you both still want it to. Don’t let it go if you have it. You will regret it. Of course, this probably won’t change anything. I am just some kid that you don’t even know. I hope this helpsm though, regardless. </p>
<p>Good Luck. Everything will work out in the end.</p>
Of course, this probably won’t change anything. I am just some kid that you don’t even know. I hope this helpsm though, regardless. </p>