<p>So we were fortunate in the admissions process and my daughter has a choice - between 2 boarding schools and a very good day school here at home. Aaaargh. I shouldn't complain and many have no options, but it is still hard to guide your child through this.</p>
<p>Here is the breakdown:</p>
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<li><p>A boarding school that we both agree on. She seems to have made a very real connection with the admissions person. We like the ethos of the school and the location.</p></li>
<li><p>A different boarding school. We did not get to visit it, so all of our impressions are from the brochure and the interview. We like what we see, but don't "feel" a connection.</p></li>
<li><p>A local college-prep day school. Many friends will go there, but it is a large school (2000 students) and there is no guarantee she will even see those friends on a daily basis. </p></li>
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<p>All three are good academically. So what now? Should we go by "feel" assuming all to be good options? Do we choose based on average SAT scores (seems cold)? Do we choose based on best scores on the playing fields?</p>
<p>Slightly compounding the problem, is the fact that now that there are actual offers of admission, the whole "going away to school" thing is a lot more scary for all of us. Exciting, to be sure. But scary! And I say that as someone who went to boarding school and loved it. Somehow it is different when it is your own child going. LOL</p>
<p>So the point to my rambling post: how do you help the child choose? I want this to be her choice as she is the one who needs to "buy in". I have asked her what worries her about going so that we can begin the process of deciding if those are usual/normal concerns or if any are "showstoppers".... any other advice out there?</p>