She showed me a new prespective in my Life, I'm not sure i like it.

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<p>Ok, first of all this is not a Troll thread, this has been bothering me for a while now. This started in the beginning of this semester; at my chemistry class. First week of class I sat next to a fairly good looking girl. I tried multiple times to strike up a conversation, however she never seemed interested... and i picked up on her message and decided I would not bother her anymore (no hard feelings). But what really bothered me was that next week I wore my football clothes to class, (I play safety for a top 25 D-1 school) and she actually approached me and asked me if she could go to a party for the football team, with me that night. Usually I am a very trusting individual and I try to be understanding...but her forwardness seemed odd to me. Anyways I was nice and I took her to the party and we still hang out time to time.</p>

<p>But this whole thing got me thinking...are most of my friends (i am from out of state, and so all my friends are people I have met at college) just my friends because I play football, take them to the best parties, and introduce them to future NFL players. I always thought that people were my friend because I am an interesting, kind, and friendly person..but for the last few months, I've been thinking..if people are not my friends for who I am, well than I don't need their friendship and I should just stick to hanging with my team only.</p>

<p>Anyways most of my friends from the football team gave me some stupid advice, and I figured you all may have somethinng more productive. I was wondering.."how do I know if my friends like me for who I am, or if they just use me? And if they are just using me, should I just start ignoring them?</p>

<p>Thanks</p>

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<p>Well in that instance, she was clearly using you.</p>

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<p>They might be using you, and this girl might be using you, too. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be friends with her, I suppose that means that you shouldn’t expect a meaningful relationship.</p>

<p>You could also look at it this way. Before this girl (or other people) had no reason to respect you. When she found out that you’re on the football team, she found a reason to respect you. This gave you two a chance to get to know each other, and perhaps now she’s able to find and respect all your other interesting qualities. Isn’t it the same way with how guys operate? A guy will be attracted to a girl because she’s good looking to him, he’ll take her out on a date and will realize that she’s funny/smart/fun or whatever. Not sure if that applies, but perhaps?</p>