If you have financial need, F&M and Lafayette say they meet full demonstrated need, and Dickinson (which I like a lot) says they have done so in recent years, though it’s not guaranteed. All three are great schools.
If you’re looking for merit aid, I think her stats might get the $30K scholarship at Ursinus that takes their cost down to about $35K.
Has College of Wooster crossed your mind? We visited and it is a wonderful campus and has just built a new science building that I hear is really great. It has a unique program for mentored research that all students take part in. It also has D3 sports so maybe chance for athletic participation? Lower key Greek scene than many schools.
COW seems pretty generous with merit aid but I have no idea what the criteria are.
Lafayette is really nice too, and larger than COW but has more difficult admissions and tough for merit aid. Lafayette also has more of a Greek scene.
My mom went to Lynchburg for its cost and she and her roommate both refused to come back the next year because they felt it was not a good school. My mom ended up transferring and graduating from a much better school even though she had to pay for it herself. Of course, this was a long time ago and I can’t answer to your other points, but that’s just a personal antecdote.