<p>No one wants to join with me and I won't know anyone while I am rushing.</p>
<p>That’s really the only reason to rush from my perspective. It’s basically a gathering of other girls who are just as socially anxious as you about making friends.</p>
<p>Sure, why not. Even if you are not the most outgoing girl…go rush. It might turn out fine.</p>
<p>Heck, I’m not the social type. I haven’t talked to anyone beside my RA, roommate, and three kids in two of my classes yet. But I am going to rush a fraternity. I suppose you’ll get better as time goes on.</p>
<p>Most people don’t know others who are rushing. At my university, everyone is randomly put into groups and out of thousands of girls, the chances of being with someone you know (esp. as a freshman who hasn’t been on campus a long time) is slim.</p>
<p>Shyness can hurt you during the rushing process though. Try to match the energy to the person talking to you at each house. If they are bubbly and excited, act bubbly and excited (fake it till you make it applies here). Anything less may be perceived as a lack of enthusiasm for their house (something NO sorority member is going to like).</p>
<p>Definitely go through recruitment! First of all, there is never going to be a sorority where every single girl is loud and outgoing and bubbly. Even if it comes off like that, there is sure to be at least one girl who isn’t, probably more. Recruitment just gives you the idea that everyone is crazy peppy all the time and that really isn’t true (more likely it’s a lot of coffee and adrenaline). </p>
<p>Being in a sorority can also help you break out of your shyness. These are girls who will have your back at any moment and encourage you to go out more, talk more, stand up more, and be a better version of yourself. And you will probably not know most if any girls in your pledge class at the start. That’s completely fine! They will become your friends faster than you could ever imagine. And even if you know someone going into it, they might not even be your greatest friend from your pledge class. You never know what amazing women you may end up joining with.</p>
<p>But in regards to what Big10Champ said, please don’t feel that you have to “fake it” through recruitment. There is no need to be a crazy bubbly and outrageous person if you’re not. You want your sisters to love you for who you are, not someone who they discovered is very different after recruitment in a more informal setting. But that being said, do try to be engaged. Answer the questions and expand on them as much as possible so you can have a real conversation. Allowing the sisters you’re talking to get to know you beyond the standard “what year/what major/where from” will really let them get to know you. Remember that yeah, recruitment is crazy, but it’s what you have to do to pledge a sorority.</p>
<p>BUT that being said, if you go through formal recruitment and don’t finish, or decide that the structure of recruitment is not something you’d feel comfortable in, go to your Greek Life office post-formal and ask if any sororities are doing informal recruitment (COB). Informal recruitment is much calmer and more personal, and might be a better environment for you. So consider that if formal doesn’t work out or if you feel you’ll succeed more in the smaller setting.</p>
<p>If you have any more questions, feel free to PM me!</p>
<p>no. focus on your studies.</p>