Joining a sorority as a second semester junior

<p>When I first got to college as a freshman, I was completely against joining a sorority. I've always been on the artistic side and have danced all my life, and those types of things were more what I was interested in. I've always had many friends and a great social life, but coming to a large school and having to meet new people became a challenge to me. Making friends here was harder than I thought. However, within the first couple of months in college I began dating a guy in what is considered the best frat on campus and we've been together since. He is a major reason I decided to rush.</p>

<p>I didn't decide to rush until this year. I'm currently a second semester sophomore. During Fall semester of this year I participated in rush events with one sorority during their informal recruitment. I got invited back to their events and felt like I really clicked with a lot of the girls. They only took 5 girls during their informal recruitment though. I wasn't discouraged and was happy to do formal recruitment with all 10 sororities this semester.</p>

<p>I went through recruitment this semester and was devastated at the end because the ones I liked and thought liked me as well dropped me. On preference day I did single preference or "suicide preference" as I hear it's called at some schools because I knew that I would only accept a bid from one of the two I was left with. In the end I did not receive a bid at all. Again I was devastated. My roommate got in the sorority we both did informal with last semester and it's hard to see the room decorated in letters that I had hoped would also be mine.</p>

<p>Perhaps I'm not a "sorority girl", I don't know. I feel that I'm very personable and fun and have a lot to offer and became very emotionally invested in this which hurt even more because I didn't want it at all at first. My GPA is a 3.0 and I know that the sororities here do like to see high GPAs. Is my 3.0 what hurt me? Also, my boyfriend tried to talk to sorority girls for me without telling me. He thought his high status in his frat would help me out and in the end it still didn't do me much good. He was just as upset as I was. </p>

<p>I can't rush until next formal recruitment which will be the spring of 2015. I will be a junior. At my school juniors do not effect the quota so a sorority can take their maximum number of freshman and sophomores and then any juniors if they wish to take them. </p>

<p>Basically I want to know if it is even a good idea to rush again. I don't want to look desperate for technically rushing a third time and I assume that could effect my chances. The situation is pretty embarrassing but I don't want to miss out on a college experience that I could really be proud I had. Does anyone have advice for me on the matter? Love to hear from people no matter what their opinion! Looking for honesty! Thanks!</p>

<p>My guess is that if you didn’t get a bid the first two times there’s no reason you’d get one this time around.</p>