There is this girl at my school who was recently accepted into several colleges, including her favorite school (It’s her top school but is not regarded as an elite or top college). She is now in the process of applying for merit aid at these schools.
However, I am aware that she failed to report a disciplinary action taken against her to all of her schools. A few weeks after she finished her applications (she applied EA everywhere), she was caught drinking underage at a school football game. She was breathalyzed and it was revealed that she was under the influence which resulted in her getting cited by the police (she was 18 at the time). Consequently, she faced a 3 day out of school suspension and her main EC & leadership position was revoked.
Even though you agree to report any future disciplinary actions taken against you when you sign and submit your common app, I am fully aware that she did not follow this rule. Is this something that I should bring to the attention of her schools? Or should I just let it be and trust that if they really care about it they will eventually find out? Additionally, if I were to report this, who would I contact?
Personally I would let it go.
You are going to see many worse things before you are my current age.
This isn’t your responsibility. The guidance counselor obviously knows and may have already disclosed to schools, and it may be on the school’s mid-term report. You can’t possibly know all that is going on as it doesn’t involve you.
How do you know she didn’t add it in her application? How do you know her GC didn’t submit an update to the AOs at each school she applied to? Perhaps the suspension was on her mid-semester transcript.
I would stay out of it, her ethical dishonesty (if true) has no impact on you.
@Mwfan1921 @momofsenior1 I know that she didn’t add it to her application because she told me that she didn’t. Additionally, I know that the incident occurred because I was in attendance at the game where she was cited. She said that her mom told her not to report and that her mother also had a conversation with her guidance counselor. They are family friends so I doubt that the counselor will update. I didn’t think about the fact that perhaps it will show up on the mid-semester transcript regardless.
I don’t want to ruin her chances or anything, but I’m sure that you can see that it’s a bit frustrating to be competing against her for acceptances and scholarships when I’ve done everything by the book. I’m not trying to come across as petty, I was just trying to figure out the right thing to do.
You are not succeeding.
Please ignore this thread from here on. I would delete it if I could. I just came to college confidential for some answers. I’m sorry for even asking my question. I wasn’t expecting to belittled and disrespected by full-grown adults who have children of their own when I was just looking for some guidance.
She may not have been telling you the truth. It may well be reported.
You should not contact the schools she applied to as you don’t have complete information and you will look petty if you are applying for same scholarships. You could express your concerns to school counselor if you feel like you need to tell someone something.
Not your job.
Let it go. Worry about you.
Mind your own business. Telling on her isn’t going to gain you an acceptance or scholarship.
If you don’t want to ruin her chances for admission or merit aid, why would you contact colleges where you both applied to report her?
If you decide to report her, it doesn’t mean you would get her spot. Plus, in the words of my 7 year old nephew “Snitches get Stitches”. I think you should just stay in your own lane.
Maybe she lied to you.
Unless you were sitting next to her when she clicked submit, you don’t know anything. Regardless, worry about yourself, and let this go.
Wow.
I am reminded of Edmund Burke’s quote: “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”
Why do people think they have anything to gain from doing this? People need to worry about themselves.
I can understand the basic ethical concern. But this isn’t an issue for OP to take to the colleges. He’s one hs kid, assuming that he knows all the facts. He can’t.
CC usually says mind your own business, don’t get bent out of shape when you can’t have all the details. Nor do you know the procedures or how a college would view this.
Pointing that out isn’t belittling. (Why would OP react that way?)
So what does come across here is that OP is setting for, “know that she didn’t add it to her application because she told me that she didn’t.” For adults, that doesn’t confirm. It’s incomplete. But it’s lit his or her fuse.
Why didn’t OP just discuss the concerns with the GC?
There is one more possible aspect of it, I’m not accusing, just suggesting some self-reflection on OP’s part: would you be as willing to report it to college if the offender were part of your “tribe” - in terms of gender, race, socio-economics, other factors?
Or where the OP wouldn’t personally benefit? (or think s/he was personally benefitting?)