Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Questions about FL Schools too!)

Transfer Students
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<p>So, I just got to my dream school, and I've only been here about a week. Even though my dad came to visit me yesterday, I have spent the past two days on the verge of tears frequently. I felt great when I first arrived - everyone was very friendly, but all of a sudden I began to wonder if I was in the right place. I don't feel I'm as happy as I should be. I feel like isolating myself and kind of depressed - it's hard to focus. But I am trying NOT to close myself off to a good experience at this school - help! I am thinking of changing schools, because I feel uncomfortable and I don't know that this school (Fordham College at Lincoln Center) is the best for the majors I am thinking about. My major currently, however, is undecided. Everyone keeps telling me I'm homesick, but I don't know if I agree. None of the schools at home (in Connecticut) interest me, and I know none of my friends are there.</p>

<p>PROS:
- Get along with roommates
- Lots to do in NYC
- Professors are knowledgeable/friendly
- Academics are challenging
- Good internships in the city
- Active student organizations/clubs
- Students are nice/not snooty
- Not far from home
CONS:
- It's a commuter school - everyone leaves on the weekends
- Hard to make friends
- Doesn't offer one of the majors I'm thinking about, so I can't even explore that option (Hospitality)
- I think the other majors I am thinking about (Communications) may be too general here (i.e. at Boston University they have specific Communications majors, i.e. PR, Print and television, etc.)
- Don't feel safe and I feel trapped because I'm supposed to have a buddy to go anywhere, and I don't have many buddies right now lol (another facet of this is that I come from the suburbs where I always have the freedom of utilizing my car, so I am not used to relying on public transportation everyone)
- Expensive</p>

<p>Are these good reasons to transfer? (Though expenses are not a problem for my dad, I feel the strain of them because I feel perpetually broke, after spending like $500 on textbooks lol.) This weekend I am going home for 9/11 (my dad is worried about my safety) and I plan on talking to my parents then. Never in a million years did I think I'd be in this position, because I was so psyched for school - for YEARS I worked hard with this goal in mind. Maybe I have changed interests/gears?</p>

<p>So onto the hard to answer question about FL schools lol. What colleges in Florida are regarded highly/respected academically by Floridians? I had applied to Univ. of Tampa and Univ. of Miami and got accepted to Tampa with lots of aid and deferred to Spring semester at Miami (ironically, that may have been a better option for me, but I rejected it lol). But I did not get the homey feeling at either schools when I visited. Thanks for all the help!</p>

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<p>I believe sine you just started you should be a bit more optimistic.I would recommend you nail your classes and try to be involved on on campus activities.Maybe you could try taking a cab to events around the city? If that doesn’t work transfer to an institution where you will be more happy.Is there anyway you can ship your car to your current school? Does it need repairing?</p>

<p>And to answer your questions about Florida schools FSU,UF,U of Miami, and USF are highly regarded by Floridians.</p>

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<p>You said you were at Fordham, which you said was your ‘dream school.’ Try to remember why it’s your dream school and act accordingly. Like Blue Diamond said, explore the city some. Try to make friends (you already said everyone was friendly!). If you still want to transfer after a year, then go for it, but try to give Fordham a real chance.</p>

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<p>@BlueDiamond: Thanks for the suggestion, but I can’t bring my car. In New York City it would cost hundreds of dollars a month to store it, and it wouldn’t even be located on campus, plus the added cost of finding places to park would be expensive and cumbersome. The traffic in the city is horrendous, and just taking the subway would be faster. A cab would work occasionally, but again, the expense adds up. And thanks again, I will look into those other schools in Florida.</p>

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<p>@PRiNCESSMAHiNA: I will try. I am finding myself already looking at other options, because I think I want to pursue a minor or major in the hospitality field. I don’t know if I would feel good about it if I didn’t at least try a class in it.</p>

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<p>Many people would envy you being at Fordham at Lincoln Center.</p>

<p>My first year at college was horrible, but then, things started to click.</p>

<p>All you need is one buddy, and you can explore New York. You say the people are nice. I would go to the Metropolitan Museum of Art, which is fabulous, and I have no real interest in art.</p>

<p>Or walk across the Brooklyn Bridge.</p>

<p>Or walk around Central Park.</p>

<p>College is a marathon, not a sprint.</p>