Im in a bit of a sticky situation at the moment. I can’t decide whether I should transfer. So let’s just start with the school I’m at. I’m currently attending a private liberal arts college. I was so excited to go here before, but now that I’ve been here for a semester, I think there are more bad than goods things about this school for me. The pros of the school is that it is known as a very good institution with an amazing reputation. The professors and classes here are very good and I know I would be getting an amazing education here. The campus is beautiful. I have one really good friend and a few other pretty close friends, however my social life is anything but exciting. I often feel left out and like I don’t have any great friends. Everyone here is kind of cliquey and formed their friend groups within a few weeks. I also do not drink or party and to my surprise, the party culture here is very big. Everyone here parties from Wed/Thurs throughout the weekend, which is also another reason why I’ve had trouble finding a friend group. Some of the people here are depressed because of how difficult and crazy the classes are. I haven’t really found any activities that I’m passionate about or interest me at all. It’s is the northeast, and I thought I loved snow, but I’m not particularly fond of the cold weather they have here. But the thing is I wanted to come here so bad, I am over 15 hours away from home, and I basically had to beg my dad for me to go here. I was pretty unhappy my first semester, and was not really super excited to come back except for being away from my parents. My parents think I love it here though, and some aspects of it I do love. I’m not miserable, but I do think there might be another school out there that is a better fit for me. I briefly thought about transferring throughout last semester, but I didn’t seriously consider it because I didn’t think of it as a legitimate option.
Now there’s the other side of the story. I have a boyfriend. We have been together for almost 2 years, and we are pretty sure we are gonna marry each other someday. I love him a lot… And then I had this idea. I thought since I’m already not super happy at my school, that it would be a good idea to transfer, but then I thought I could kill two birds with one stone by going to either his school or a school near him. He goes to school in the south, and I think it is absolutely beautiful down there. I’ve looked at one school in particular because it is the most affordable option (I don’t have a lot of money) and I does happen to be the school he attends. The more I look at it, the more I like it. I love the area. It has more options for potential majors I could be interested in, and obviously, it is closer to him so that is a huge plus. Looking at it, I’m pretty certain that I would be happy here even if things don’t work out between us in the end, though I don’t anticipate that. However, I’m not sure if I should do it because I am getting a pretty good scholarship here and not that this new school is a bad school by any means, but it isn’t as good as the school I’m at now. I’m afraid I would be throwing away an opportunity here, but I also feel this place just isn’t right for me.
Please help!