Should I switch roommates?

<p>I'm going to be a college freshman this fall at a private school in Iowa. My class size is around 800 students. My current roommate and I met each other over Facebook, on the school's official posting page, and decided to room together as we had similar interests and seemed to get along. </p>

<p>I have met her in person twice and have developed cold feet concerning our relationship. I am somewhat reserved and she's the polar opposite. But the problem is actually that she seems to be quite attention-needy and clingy. She always tried to discreetly stop me from talking to other people and instead go off to hang out with her and her gang of new "guy friends". </p>

<p>That being said, she seemed to completely disregard trying to befriend other girls (saying she didn't "like" certain ones), and instead vying for guys' attention. She liked one so much that she literally threw herself at him the second day they had met in person. She ruminated over trite parental conflicts and gave me too much information about her very personal life after just meeting the second time. </p>

<p>She is nice, but maybe a bit manipulative and needy; not to mention boy-crazy and slightly annoying. She said she was having relations with two other guys, and when I casually asked for elaboration, immediately said that she lied and there was only one. She also pays close attention to who I'm talking to online (FB, Instagram, etc.) and really "encourages" me to pursue relationships with certain guys.</p>

<p>Is it too early to be making assumptions about her future behavior? Am I being too picky/should I only be concerned about having her as a <em>roommate</em> instead of a friend? I usually wouldn't be, but she seems very fond of me and I'm not sure I feel the same. Should I just stick it out? I'm not sure how much of this I could actually "talk over" with her.</p>

<p>If I do switch, it would be a randomly selected person.</p>

<p>Thanks a lot!</p>

<p>If she’s manipulative and makes you feel unsafe, then I would say definitely switch. You don’t have to be best friends with your roommate, but at the same time you don’t want a roommate who is going to pressure you and make your life a bit uncomfortable. </p>

<p>I think you should switch roommates. If she already annoys you after spending a little amount of time together, imagine how hard it’ll be to actually live with her for at least a year. Also, this is judgemental of me, but she seems not to be as interested in academics as she is in the social aspect of college so chances are, she’ll make it somewhat difficult for you to study.<br>
Doesn’t your school have roommate surveys so they can match you with a roommate similar to yourself?</p>